Sounds like a marriage built on distrust.
Not even close-as I’ve said before, one size does not fit all-there was no distrust in my marriage-especially with our finances out in the open from the first, even though we were far from wealthy-some of us are just inclined to prevent conflict in our most important relationship whenever possible-it is a mercenary world out there...
I’m glad your financial arrangements work for you, whatever they might be-I do not criticize what works for others, even though it may not be my way of doing things...