Posted on 11/18/2019 6:06:51 PM PST by Morgana
Less than a year after having gender surgery, Nathaniel now says, “This whole thing was a bad idea. I am 19 years old, and I feel as though I have ruined my life.”
It’s heartbreaking each time I get a letter from someone who underwent gender-change surgery and regrets it, especially someone as young as Nathaniel.
With his permission, I’m telling a bit of his story to raise awareness of the young lives being ruined by the rush to surgery, and hoping that hearing the testimony of this young man will influence others on this path to slow down and consider the consequences before consenting to surgery.
In Nathaniel’s case, he says he was bullied by the boys in elementary school because he was sensitive and preferred playing girl games. When he was a bit older, he discovered internet pornography, heard about transgenderism, and as he says, “convinced myself that’s what I was.”
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When he finally worked up the nerve to tell his mother in the summer after eighth grade, she made an appointment with, in his words, “a doctor at an informed-consent clinic.”
He started seeing the doctor a week after his 15th birthday, and from how he describes the next years of his teens, I’d say going to the clinic didn’t improve his life.
“From then on,” he says, “I slowly detached from everything until I was just staying home, playing video games, and going on the internet all day. I stopped reading, drawing, riding my bicycle. I surrounded myself in an echo chamber that supported and validated my poor decisions, because the others were also, unfortunately, stuck in that pit, too.”
A month after his 18th birthday, Nathaniel had what’s euphemistically called “bottom surgery.” For a male like Nathaniel, that means refashioning the male genitalia into a pseudo-vagina. He suffered some complications that required a second surgery a few months later, and he had facial surgery to further feminize his appearance.
Nine months later, he says:
Now that I’m all healed from the surgeries, I regret them. The result of the bottom surgery looks like a Frankenstein hack job at best, and that got me thinking critically about myself. I had turned myself into a plastic-surgery facsimile of a woman, but I knew I still wasn’t one. I became (and to an extent, still feel) deeply depressed.
The unpopular truth, which Nathaniel unfortunately learned the hard way at a young age, is a man is not a woman and can’t ever become a woman, even with surgically refashioned genitals and feminizing facial surgery.
Nathaniel is a bright young man who never had the benefit of sound, effective counseling, which would have prevented this horrible mistake from happening. He will deal with it for the rest of his life.
No one will help this young man to detransition. The so-called “informed-consent clinic” (as if a teenager can give informed consent) washed their hands of him. The reckless ideology claims another life.
Nathaniel’s story is not unique. Specifics may vary, but I’ve found that everyone who regrets can point to something that happened that caused them to not want to be who they are and attempt to become someone else.
For Nathaniel, “what happened” was bullying about not being male and viewing pornography on the internet. When he sought help in his distress, the transgender ideology and the gender clinic and surgeons affirmed his false thinking and enticed him down the primrose path.
Another young person with a story of medical malpractice I’ve come to know is Sydney Wright. Born female, Sydney “transitioned,” also at age 18. Now 21, she recently told her story: “I Spent a Year as a Trans Man. Doctors Failed Me at Every Turn.”
She clearly articulates the absence of counseling prior to being prescribed the powerful male hormone testosterone and the horrible effects taking it for even a short time had on her female body.
As more and more people seek help from gender clinics, we’re seeing a tidal wave of those who regret sex change. So many contact me that I wrote a book with 30 of their stories, “Trans Life Survivors.”
In an article, “Observations in a Gender Diversity Clinic,” published in Ethics and Medics, Dr. Monique Robles, a board-certified pediatric critical care physician, observed that children and adolescents are put on the path to puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones, and “sex reassignment surgery” at gender clinics, but receive no psychological counseling.
She says that this practice is widespread and growing among gender clinics, even though a review of the medical literature shows that none of this treatment regimen is supported by strong scientific evidence.
The reckless gender medical practitioners have blood on their hands. Both Sydney’s and Nathaniel’s young bodies bear the penalties.
It isn’t society’s fault that these teenagers suffered harm. The blame lies with the gender clinics and the medical staff who practice there.
By turning a blind eye to the scientific and ethical aspects of their chosen profession, they are directly responsible for poor outcomes, regret, detransitioning, suicides, and families torn to shreds by unnecessary surgeries.
We should be outraged at doctors and surgeons who carve up distraught people, especially teens, and leave them looking like, as Nathaniel says, “Frankenstein hack jobs.”
National public outcry is a powerful force, as we saw in the custody case of Jeff Younger in Texas. We need to support all who are battling the destructive practice of transitioning children.
Nathaniel will need proper medical care to get his life back and funds to pursue legal action, if indicated. If you’d like to help, visit sexchangeregret.com and contact me.
The good news for both Nathaniel and Sydney is that they are revitalizing their faith in Jesus and, as I know well from my lifetime of transgender experience, faith in God leads to restoration, if we allow it.
“...“This whole thing was a bad idea. ...”
Understatement of the Decade, kid.
They need to get him into a well qualified therapist and fast.
Yes.
Parents need to tell children how it is and how it’s going to be for as long as you can. With a “period, the end”
When he finally worked up the nerve to tell his mother in the summer after eighth grade, she made an appointment with, in his words, “a doctor at an informed-consent clinic.”
“When he finally worked up the nerve to tell his mother in the summer after eighth grade, she made an appointment with, in his words, “a doctor at an informed-consent clinic.” “
It’s one thing to support a child like this in a major change to his/her life once one reaches adulthood, it’s quite another to indulge a young person going thru the throes of puberty and let them destroy their life when they are not clear on the potential consequences.
This whole story just reeks of HATE! Off to the re-education camps with you all!
So what is the medical terminology for a Woman having a sex change to a Male?
Adadictomy
we are witnessing utter insanity; a complete madness has enveloped the Country
“we are witnessing utter insanity; a complete madness has enveloped the Country”
Amen to that!
I have a few questions, and maybe some insights. I hope this will help you and yours in the long run. To my knowledge, I have zero idea if any of this has been tested, but as a former researcher, I think it has merit, at least for preliminary studies.
Here’s where I’m coming from. My oldest child, a son, was ALWAYS very small for his age. He was always at the bottom of the growth charts, or even below them. When he was a few months old, our pediatrician labeled him as “failure to thrive”, which I did not understand, She asked me to keep a log of every tablespoon of food that he ate for a month, and wanted to see us when that month was over, I brought to her a notebook of every “tablespoon” of food that he ate, and I have to tell you, the look on her face at that appointment was complete astonishment. She told me that he was obviously getting plenty to eat. She didn’t quite understand why he was so small, but since he was only at the 2 standard deviations off the growth chart, and not beyond, she didn’t question my mothering any further.
Soon after we relocated to another state due to employment opportunities, The next pediatrician wasn’t too terribly concerned. However, when our son was in the 8th grade, and only 4’9”, he recommended that we see a pediatric endocrinologist. So we did, and this doctor put our son in the hospital overnight so that he could have his blood drawn at hourly intervals. It was tested, and what turned up was that our son, who was at this point 2-1/2 standard deviations smaller and shorter than the growth charts, had a normal amount of growth hormone in his system, but that his body wasn’t absorbing it!!
To make a much longer story a bit shorter, this lovely doctor decided that the pros outweighed the cons, and decided that our son should have daily injections of Human Growth Hormone (and testosterone) at more elevated levels. I’m happy to say that it worked! Our son finally started growing and developing more like his peers! In the end, when his growth plates indicated that he wouldn’t benefit from further treatment, it was stopped, Our son grew 12 inches in 4 years, I wish I could remember the weight change too.
The bottom line of why I tell this true story is that it has always made me wonder if some of these *transgender* kids aren’t absorbing the hormones that their bodies might be producing. Perhaps they need more of the hormones that match their biological makeup, instead of switching over to the other sex.
After my experience with my son, I will always wonder if these children might benefit from a similar approach to this hormonal disorder. Have the scientists even looked at this? It would be interesting to see historical research literature in this regard.
Why are you so sick pro trans?
“Chances are rather high your kid still has those feelings. He’s just going to hide them from you now or bury them.”
I guess it’s choice that parents make - indulge their fantasies and let them ruin their lives when they’re young, or give them a chance to grow up normal and, later, make stupid decisions if they please. I think, in most cases, the kids simply outgrow those fantasies, which seems to be the case here.
Nice, glad it worked! Our kid was small, but not that small for his age. Eventually he hit a spurt on his own and caught up in size.
Sensitive boys need extra help in getting through adolescence. They are often the ones preyed upon by homosexuals. Often these boys are simply “artsy” but are convinced by evil people that they are “gay” or crazily, women trapped in men’s bodies.
This is not a new thing....there are many who regret this decision!!!
I’m not pro trans. But I recognize it’s a mental health problem. And I don’t think spanking a boy who’s got gender dysphoria is a solution to that problem. In many places, that’s a good way to get CPS called on you.
“I’m not pro trans.”
Oh really?
“Chances are rather high your kid still has those feelings. He’s just going to hide them from you now or bury them. They are likely to resurface at some point in his life. “
That is an absolutely ridiculous unfounded assertion.
Worldwide, i.e. universally, there is negligible (approaching 0.0%) indication of males entering adulthood believing themselves to be female outside ‘woke’ LGBT driven countries, specifically the U.S.
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