Posted on 09/08/2019 5:54:09 AM PDT by rickmichaels
Edited on 09/08/2019 6:04:34 AM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
I knew a woman who was married to a professional man. He worked hard, long hours, was always inventive, creative. He was a dedicated father; she demanded it, for sure, but even beyond that, he was all in and was an extremely active dad. She didn’t like to cook, didn’t think it was her job, so he learned how. She didn’t like to tidy up, and he was no Mr. Clean, but he gave it a go. She wanted him to be compliant, yet resilient, and he tried to be all of the things she wanted. He even pretty well achieved it. He’d come so far that he sent us all a poem about how to appease the women in his house, who wanted him to leave the toilet seat down, he learned to pee sitting down. What a mensch! Only, in the end, she tired of his acquiescence and left him for a belligerent roofer 10 years her junior.
The New York Post took aim yesterday at a study called “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” in the Journal of Marriage and Family, that explains that women often don’t marry because there is a dearth of marriageable men. Apparently, the definition of marriageable is “makes 58% more money than any of the dudes available right now.” The “patriarchy” used to keep men and women in their places, and now that women are achieving at higher rates than men, it’s still the “patriarchy” that is keeping everyone from being happy.
In the old system, women went to college to find husbands or got jobs as receptionists at law offices to marry an esquire before quitting the job market to take on the dual roles of housewife and mother. This imbalance in earnings and status was deemed to be just no good for the female half of the species, who ended up poorly educated, often jilted in middle-age, and back in the workforce without even a pretty face to get by.
Plus, men were not great. They lacked emotion, they were too focused on careers, ambition, status, fulfilling the role of provider. The patriarchy had done these dudes a bad turn, had made them so concerned with achieving the masculine ideal that they didn’t measure up to what their women wanted or needed. And women were stuck with the status quo.
A big push was made for women to go get more from life, husbands, love, family, all that stuff paled in comparison to what was achievable if women buckled down, hit the books, and entered the capitalist machine as worker bees eager for their own honey. Great, why not? Go get it, girl.
And they did get it. Under equity feminism, more women have college degrees than ever before, more women are successful in their fields, yet more women are unable to find suitable matches because men, it turns out, just can’t measure up to women’s expectations. Again.
If you’re one of the single ladies out there, this will not be a surprise. I cannot count how many intelligent, independent, attractive, [bleep] women I know who can’t find a guy they want to spend more than one night with, and even that is a stretch.
For a while, women were complaining that guys were afraid of commitment, that women couldn’t find a man who wanted a real relationship, babies, the works. But somewhere along the line, when the college degrees were awarded in greater quantity to the fairer sex, ladies began to have a different complaint. I started to hear friends carp about guys who wanted more than a hook-up, guys who wanted their time and attention when not rolling in hay as well. Why, just last night, a good friend, independent, hot, confident, all of that, told me she had to cut a guy loose because he was texting her asking how her day went instead of simply reaching out to find a suitable time for sex.
Is it any wonder that women out there who want to get hitched can’t find anyone suitable to hitch their wagon to? Guys have been overtaken by female accomplishments (kudos, ladies), and still have no idea what women want. A hookup? A commitment? A high earner? A hard worker? A partner? A housewife?
Women didn’t like how men were, so they demanded they change. Men changed, and now that they have, women don’t like what they’ve changed into. Women want soft, emotional, high achieving, career focused tough guys who don’t get angry, remember anniversaries, bring flowers, and can splurge on expensive meals and trips, without working all weekend, and still make it to little Johnny’s ballet recitals.
Contemporary woke feminism doesn’t care about equality. It demands that men strip themselves of their toxic masculinity, their desire to compete and achieve, to become more stereotypically femme, so that women don’t have to do all the emotional heavy lifting. Okay. But on the other hand, women want men to be high-achieving, breadwinning earners, who are professionally successful, and, if Tinder is any indication, taller than them as well.
The only problem is that these toxic characteristics are essential for success in the marketplace. When men let them go, all those things that these traits facilitated fall by the wayside as well. Men are emasculated for not achieving just as they are demeaned for those attributes that enable achievement. Wtf, yo?
Why not just let men be men with all of their bumbling, masculine, competitive energy? The truth is that most women want the opposite of a woke Gillette ad. They want high-achieving, strong men to be partners with. Even if they don’t know that they want that, or don’t want to admit to it, reality reveals they sure as hell do. Otherwise, no intelligent woman who got her man to do everything she claimed she wanted, including coming up with an ingenious way to make sure the toilet seat was permanently in her preferred position, would leave him for someone who promised nothing but stereotypical masculinity.
Women need a sheep dog that will guard and protect them. But they cannot tell the difference between a sheep dog and a wolf.
“Face it, feminist wants a girlfriend with a penis, not a husband (man)..”
Actually, to be more correct. . .
“Face it, feminist wants a girlfriend with a penis and a huge paycheck, not a husband (man)..”
One of my best friends died about a year ago. I had known him for about 35 years. He was just an all around amazing guy who could do pretty much anything. His parents were missionaries and he grew up in Africa so he had a very unique perspective on just about everything.
We have been very busy for the last few years and I had talked to him only occasionally. But I kept thinking we would get together and I would take him flying, and have him and his wife over for a meal. But when I called she told me that he had died.
So we had her come over for dinner after church and she told us lots of details about their life together that made sense but I had not considered. He was actually difficult to live with because he was a hoarder. Not like on the TV shows, but he had a lot of crap and he insisted on having a lot of it in their living room, especially piles of old magazines. When I went to their house I assumed that she was OK with this and maybe was a little messy herself. But actually we were told he became nasty when she would try to help him straighten things up.
She loved him but eventually she had moved out and he never mentioned it to me. They didn't get a divorce, she just started living in a little place a couple miles away that she could keep neat and clean. But when he got sick she moved back and took care of him. He ended up in the hospital and a nursing home and then he died. He had made a lot of money and was very good at managing it. She had a good job and retirement also. They always dreamed of doing all sorts of fun stuff, traveling and having nice things, but because they were so frugal and he had collected all this crap they didn't do anything out of their normal routine.
Outwardly I always thought that they had a very good marriage. But she was not happy, and now that he is dead even though she misses him she seems happier. She is doing the things she wants and even bought a car that was only a year old. I feel a little sad about the whole situation. He was a great guy, but his wife seems to be doing better with him gone. That seems a little out of tune with the way things should have been. It feels like even though he was a Christian man who did things right, that his life had a lot of wasted opportunities.
Our next door neighbor is a mean and nasty old coot and his wife was an alcoholic. He had a massive strike and is in a nursing home and will die there. We saw his wife the other day. She has given up drinking, looked about 20 years younger and has a positive outlook. Are we really living well when we are causing the ones we love to be miserable?
The deeper you dig into what women really want, the closer you get to the situation that existed before feminism.
“Smart guys stay single today...No need to bring the govt into relationships.”
The government is in our lives either way (want to stay single, pay more, a lot more, in taxes and a single-earner married couple, for example). But the ugly part is divorce, but that can also happen to people if they stay with a girl too long without marrying, or just have kids with a girl. The standard way to minimize that risk has been mentioned here several times and that is to do exactly what the Left wants Trump to be doing - which is ‘off-shoring’.
The biggest difference this has made in my life is the serenity. The peace and quiet. Stress level way down. Blood pressure in normal range. I do not miss at all all the shouting and anger that dominate the cable news networks. I don't even watch FoxNews anymore and I don't miss any of that. There are so many other ways to get news these days.
Also, most TV shows and movies are crap. There are a few good ones and those are the ones I'll stream from time to time. But I go to the books. I've never watched the "Game of Thrones" TV show but the books are phenomenal.
“And for crying out loud, retire those video games. Put them in the yard sale with the GI Joes and the DC comic books. Nothing screams “immature boy” to a woman louder than a grown man playing a child’s video game.”
DEAD ON!!! There are guys in their 40s now that can’t let go, and Japanese men literally dying during game-a-thons.
Freud was wrong on a number of topics IMHO lol.
Democrats have adopted that logic 100% years ago only now their true colors show.
They know how to pimp utopia to the lazy.
Basically what that is saying is that our home can be a place of tranquility despite the evil that rages around us on the outside.
That sends up LOTS of red flags for me.
A husband and wife ought to be on a first name basis, especially after bearing EIGHT kids together.
Families who look too perfect on the outside often aren't on the inside.
I’ve been enjoying black and white Burke’s Law. Yes it is a bit outlandish but fun.
Hence why I no longer go to said establishments
Thank you, I have a husband, two sons, three brothers, one brother in law, one grandson and 6 nephews, I hate the way the are treated and spoken of these days.
You are correct.
As an excuse, I have noted that most of my errors happen in the morning postings when I haven’t woken up yet.
That would be before about 4PM, as a disclaimer.
That’s funny!!!
I've heard it said that...
Women marry with the intent of changing their husbands to their desires.
Men marry with the intent that their wives will remain as they are.
“Don’t go changin’, to try and please me....”
Then the problem is with them, and there's no point in changing yourself to suit them. It will only fail anyway, because no matter who you try to be it won't be good enough.
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