I get the idea she wants to make lemonade out of lemons. That she wants to overcome her past.
But to be “grateful”?
She doesn’t have to live like a refugee.
Somewhere, somehow, somebody
Must have kicked you around some
Tell me why you wanna lay there
And revel in your abandon.
Somewhere, somehow, somebody
Must have kicked you around some
Who knows, maybe you were kidnapped
Tied up, taken away, and held for ransom
~Tom Petty
Well leave it to MSNBC to sensationalize what she said in their headline.
“She doesn’t have to live like a refugee.”
Why would you think she is? She isn’t! She’s making the best of a bad thing she had no control over.
She doesn’t live like a refugee. She has mentally triumphed over her ordeal, and in so doing, she has conquered and to some extent eliminated it.
When I learned that my abuser had died, I felt sad for his family. Some days later, in a retrospective moment, I privately congratulated myself for having moved so far beyond petty anger.
I just didn’t really care anymore, and saw things for what they were.
Combat OIF: check.
Abuse as a child: check.
“Insanity Moments” check.
Doing bad, bad things way back when: check.
Dollars spent on psychiatrists: $0.
Smiles, cuddling, love-making, raising a family, lifting charities, helping to elect Republicans...
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