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Not complaining about women at all on this thread. Simply describing an ace as an ace. The sexual, dating and marriage markets today are all a bi-product of second and third wave feminism. Believe me, I realize there are very bad men and women out there - my brother is a perfect example of a very bad male (who, ironically, or not, has all kinds of women throw themselves at him). But the laws strongly protect women from bad males (alimony, child support, jail, split of assets, shame etc) but almost nothing from poor behaving women - in fact they actually get rewards (child support, alimony, split of assets, child custody, sympathy, etc). But the rules of this game today are strongly in favor of women, just like 100 years ago they were strongly in favor of men. If we were talking about violence, war or a small minority of men who keep impregnating women and care not what happens to their kid, I definitely blame a lot of men.

The nice person. The honest one. Woman or man - it doesn’t matter which.

So some degree, I will agree with this. The difference is nice women choose the bad boys on purpose - because they are attracted to them because they are somewhat dangerous and very exciting and because they think they can change them. Men go out of their way to avoid the "bad" women except for one night stands.

Some observations based on experience...

the laws strongly protect women from bad males (alimony, child support, jail, split of assets, shame etc) but almost nothing from poor behaving women - in fact they actually get rewards (child support, alimony, split of assets, child custody, sympathy, etc).

Lots of people believe that. But that's not really the case - at least not in my state. In my state, the court doesn't care whether you're a woman or man. It bases decisions on these other factors:

(1) The higher-earner pays alimony, whether man or woman.

These days, many women earn more than their husbands, and those women pay alimony.

(2) If the receiver remarries or moves in with an S/O, the alimony stops.

(3) Whoever stays with the children receives primary physical custody, and the other parent pays child support.

Some fathers have primary custody. But I noticed most divorced fathers want only visitation. They'd rather pay child support and keep their freedom.

(4) Whoever remains in the house may continue to live there, but must cough up half the equity in the house (thus reducing the alimony) and take over the mortgage payments.

(5) What's also split in half is debt - even debt hidden by one spouse from the other. It's very difficult to prove debt is cheating debt. (Many a cheating husband has driven his wife into financial ruin this way.)

Of course, your lawyers probably told you all these things and more. The point is, divorce isn't as clear cut as many here believe.

nice women choose the bad boys on purpose

It looks to me as if nice guys choose the bad girls. Anyway, somehow, too many nice girls end up with bad guys, and too many nice guys end up with bad women. And that's a shame. Sometimes you don't really know about a person until much later.