Posted on 04/18/2019 9:34:05 AM PDT by rickmichaels
When the media “reports” that men are “afraid” of commitment, it’s a continuation of a 50 year trend to mock and disparage men for their reproductive choices.
Men aren’t “afraid” of commitment. When men walk away from “commitment” and marriage, they are making intelligent choices. Fear doesn’t enter into men’s minds when they walk away from women in our “modern” culture.
There was once a time when marriage was an honorable institution. It was not that long ago.
As mankind rose from primitive savagery, to civilizing the world, men were able to bring art, beauty, truth and goodness to the human condition. Marriage was vital to the stability that permitted these advances in humanity.
Marriage was a balanced set of cultural traditions and values in which men and women supported each other, assumed gendered roles that encouraged them to support each other, and, provided a means for men and women to enhance their lives through the synergy of mutual care, respect, responsibility and knowledge for and about each other.
Those days are long gone.
Marriage is no longer an honorable institution. It is simply a device of the neo-Marxist state to exploit men.
Do you think that is an exaggeration?
Let’s ask some straight questions.
What benefits does marriage offer a man?
The answer is that marriage offers nothing to men. At one time, men could enjoy trusting a woman with his love and sexual feelings. Current government regulation, however, has, virtually demonized and criminalized every aspect of men’s feelings and sexuality in, and outside of marriage.
At one time, Men could count on marriages lasting a lifetime. This gave him, his wife and his children stability and the incentive to work together, as a family, for long term benefits and gains.
Now, women file 80% of divorces, within about 8 years of marriage, use the biased and oppressive family courts to strip a man of his children, his life savings, and leave him to twist in the wind without a support network of any kind. Our laws and family court judges are designed to encourage women to get a divorce, alienate the children from their Father’s protection, and, exploit men for the convenience and enrichment of the neo-marxist state . . .
Men are dying from suicide at six times the rate of women in some age categories. We know that one of the reasons is the man-hating (misandry) that saturates our institutions (law, education, military, religion, etc.), and, that the other is that a man loses everything in most marriages. To meet draconian government regulation of marriage, a man must abandon his personal support network of friends, and, when he is divorced, and impressed into the service of the state to pay child support, he no longer has the time or energy to form personal support networks of friends.
Men walk away from marriage and commitment with women out of intellect and common sense choice. “Fear” has nothing to do with it.
Western society is doomed if.....
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Things change over eons and will continue. Just look back to
1492 and where are the natives today? Mostly on reservations.
Other civilizations moved in and the process will continue.
Ping
Sheryl Sandberg, Fbook CEO, confirming modern day unrestrained hypergamy. -
“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”
“Alex...I’ll take “alimony” for a thousand.”
The Old Social contracts, the old rules and undertandings do not apply to modern women, BUT men are still held to the old social contracts. Why would men consider marraige?
It is much easier for a husband to love his wife when she respects him, and likewise, a wife to respect her husband when he loves her.
The problem is that too many withhold one or the other if their spouse doesn’t hold up their end, and it becomes a downward spiral.
I’ve been paying $22K/yr alimony for over 25 years. Never going down that road again.
For sure-My friend, a confirmed bachelor, said:
‘Marriage? NOT!! Just find a woman you hate and buy her a house.”
Women SHOULD file most of the divorces. A man is just the bad guy if he does it. I was smart enough to let it happen her way. It helps when she has her own money.
to fix this, stop treating every divorce like a domestic violence case and stop giving women the bunk of the estate.
She got the Gold mine, i got the shaft. THEY split it right down the middle, and gave her the better half
Many of them have ZERO understanding of MEN even at the most BASIC level psychologically, but expect men to be experts in their crazy....
Men are simple base creatures for the most part, we aren’t hard to figure out, or to get along with.. but when you refuse to accept masculinity at face value, like women have done since the beginning, you wind up creating nothing but drama and resentment all the way around.
Want to be happy? Accept your husband/boyfriend for who and what he is, and who and what he is, is a guy. Pure and simple, treat him right and you’ll be amazed what he will do for you, act like a shrew and a harpie because he doesn’t act like you think he should.... You will both be miserable.
From Wikipedia:
Sheryl Sandberg
Spouse: Dave Goldberg (m. 2004 - 2015 (his death)) · Brian Kraff (m. 1993 - 1994 (divorce))
Yes, someone I want to take advice from. /sarc
I get tired of all this “men lose everything” theme. I got divorced from a man who was violent and lazy. He “dropped” me and 2 small boys off in a state 900 miles from home with 2 suitcases and some change in my pocket (he even took my purse). He kept the house, bank account, tools of my employment, 2 vehicles, the boat and camper (all of which I had paid for.) I picked tomatoes for a whole summer to get enough money to return to my original home state to start over again. It took me 2 years to find the son of a gun in order to serve him divorce papers, as he had sold everything and moved in with whomever was his newest girlfriend at the time. The judge granted me nothing, except sole custody. Looking back, I got the best end of the deal.
OK, so I did win. The boys were worth it. Guess you’re right after all.
Well said
“Western society is doomed if the comprehensive and politically-protected faggotization of boys and men by crazed lesbianic feminists is not stopped.”
That passively phrased sentence leaves out the most important part.
Stopped by whom?
Having recently witnessed friends’ marriage fail because the wife decided she preferred the companionship of her personal trainer, I have done a lot of reading to figure out what went wrong. I know it is anecdotal, but every article explains how a woman’s emotional attachment works and what men need to do to nurture them. I have yet to read and article explaining to women how men look at attachment or that the expectations created by romantic comedies are unreal.
Men aren’t “afraid” of commitment by any means.....why bother with all the headaches when you can be single and still get everything you want without marriage....EVERYTHING!....and the best part is free.
They used to, they dont anymore. You have to eastern europe or asia to find women who still understand men. Just pick up any women's mag or go to the bookstore and see which types of books they are pushing. All real, real bad advice on dating and men. Not a single bit of introspection and solipsism rules the day.
“That little patch of fur has destroyed so much throughout history.”
Or was it the little head down there?
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