Posted on 12/03/2018 5:50:00 PM PST by proud American in Canada
Hi everyone. I need a bit of help. I've had a serious drinking problem for a very long time. My husband doesn't drink. But he does hit me. I guess he feels entitled to since I'm the one who causes all the problems apparently. I'm up in bed I haven't had any food for dinner. I need doesn't even want me to come down he shakes me he hits me; I'm supposed to go to rehab on Wednesday for 3 months. Not really looking forward to it. I just wondered if anyone had any advice I'm really at a loss here I just want to move back to the States my son is 23 he lives here without paying anything. Our daughter lives in Montreal and just going to school. And apparently I'm supposed to pay everything from what my dad left when he died. I could tell you one thing... If my father were alive you would kick my husband a**.
I spent thousands of US Dollars going to see him 5 * when he was dying I wish everyday that I could call him. I wanted to just send a card. To GW. It doesn't matter how old your parent is, it's still very tough.
Anyway I need advice please? I would really appreciate it I know a lot of women have gone through this and I just want to know how you survived
No advice, just prayers.
L
A man should never hit a woman, get out now.
In rehab focus on getting sober. Take care of you first.
Pray every morning when you get up and before you go to bed. Ask God to help you overcome this addiction.
You need rehab. Your alcohol issue maybe related to abuse. You family can fend for themselves, you have to take care of you right now. Get up, pack, and get to rehab as soon as you can. You can’t face this without help, and you need ALOT of time to sort through your addiction. Good luck, don’t leave rehab early no matter how painful the realizations are.
Take the rehab as emergency care to stabilize a dying patient so a long-term 'cure' can begin....I pray you are truly sick and tired (we call it being in a state of "incomprehensible demoralization") of living as a drunk and can dig deep enough to let the miracle of recovery happen....nobody ever stops being an alcoholic, but one can get to a point where one reacts like normal people and no longer suffers the devastation of active alcoholism.
Once you are sober, you can assess your situation and what is driving your husband to such unmanly behavior - but understand that he probably suffered far more than you as he watched and lived with your drinking over the years.
Good luck and God Bless.
TY
I know you're female; but you need to man up and toss him OUT!
That said; go to rehab and FOLLOW THE RULES!
HUH?
BINGO!
do not repay evil with evil
true
Honey, you'll be "on rehab" for the rest of your life.
If you are lucky.
Right!
One doesn't 'ask' a toddler to PLEASE! quit playing in traffic. One yanks their little ass off of the road and gives a lesson to NOT do it again.
AMEN!
...for there is NO reason to drink down here!
Lest you’ve forgotten or perhaps have never known: Pride goes before a fall.
Some things are so much simpler when expressed by kids: EXPLANATION OF GOD
*'One of God's main jobs is making people. He makes them to replace the ones that die, so there will be enough people to take care of things on earth. He doesn't make grownups, just babies. I think because they are smaller and easier to make. That way he doesn't have to take up his valuable time teaching them to talk and walk. He can just leave that to mothers and fathers.'*
*'God's second most important job is listening to prayers An awful lot of this goes on, since some people, like preachers and things, pray at times beside bedtime. God doesn't have time to listen to the radio or TV because of this. Because he hears everything, there must be a terrible lot of noise in his ears, unless he has thought of a way to turn it off.'*
*'God sees everything and hears everything and is everywhere which keeps
Him pretty busy. So you shouldn't go wasting his time by going over your
mom and dad's head asking for something they said you couldn't have.'*
*'Atheists are people who don't believe in God. I don't think there are any in Chula Vista . At least there aren't any who come to our church.'*
*'Jesus is God's Son. He used to do all the hard work, like walking on water and performing miracles and trying to teach the people who didn't want to learn about God. They finally got tired of him preaching to them and they crucified him. But he was good and kind, like his father, and he told his father that they didn't know what they were doing and to forgive them and God said O.K.' And God did not let Jesus stay in the grave, but raised him from the dead*
*'His dad (God) appreciated everything that he had done and all his hard work on earth so he told him he didn't have to go out on the road anymore. He could stay in heaven. So he did. And now he helps his dad out by listening to prayers and seeing things which are important for God to take care of and which ones he can take care of himself without having to bother God. Like a secretary, only more important.'*
*'You can pray anytime you want and they are sure to help you because they got it worked out so one of them is on duty all the time.' *
*'You should always go to church on Sunday because it makes God happy, and if there's anybody you want to make happy, it's God!*
*Don't skip church to do something you think will be more fun like going to the beach. This is wrong. And besides the sun doesn't come out at the beach until noon anyway.'*
*'If you don't believe in God, besides being an atheist, you will be very lonely, because your parents can't go everywhere with you, like to camp, but God can. It is good to know He's around you when you're scared, in the dark or when you can't swim and you get thrown into real deep water by big kids.'*
*'But...you shouldn't just always think of what God can do for you. I figure God put me here and he can take me back anytime he pleases.*
*And...that's why I believe in God.'*
I; for one; thank you for sharing SO much!
Some guys actually LIKE that!!
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