How to Attract Women: 7 Things Women Find Very Attractive [From Her]

Mantelligence ^ | Robin Sutherns

[SeekAndFind]

Women are confusing creatures. We know.

The list of what women find attractive in men, and what women don’t find attractive, is long and at times, contradictory.

You might think that figuring them out is impossible…

…and while there isn’t a secret recipe for understanding every woman, there are a few things that almost all women are drawn to.

To break the code, and teach you how to attract women, I’m going to tell you 7 things that women find highly attractive in men and why they do.

How to Attract Women: 7 Things Women Find Highly Attractive in a Man

Here are 7 things that women find attractive and love in no particular order.

7. Leadership and Initiative

I polled a good handful of my closest girl friends to get their input about what they find attractive…

…and leadership and initiative was the first quality that the majority of them named.

Women look for a guy who will go after what he wants (this will come back into play with quality #5) but is also humble and can admit when he makes a mistake.

Guys who lead the way and have a plan make women feel cared for and protected.

Women also love men who are self-starters; who make a name for themselves or are changing something in the world because of a dream they have.

Now:

One of the most attractive things a man can have is the ability to follow-through on what he says he’ll do.

This is especially important when it comes to making plans with a woman.

If a man says he’ll call, and he doesn’t…

…he’s losing points with that woman already… Even if he “forgot.”

Nothing is more unattractive than a man who is all talk, no action. Your words hold value to women so it’s important to not say things if you have no intention of backing them up.

Be a leader and take initiative

6. A Sense of Humor

Have you ever seen a comedian’s wife?

She’s usually a babe, right? Guys like Will Ferrell.. Jack Black… Jason Sudeikis… they all have absolutely stunning wives.

Now:

I bet these guys have fantastic personalities and are all-around nice guys…

…but I also bet a big reason these ladies were originally drawn to these men was because of their sense of humor.

Knowing how to attract women is as simple as being able to make her laugh.

Now:

We’re all born with different senses of humor and with different things that we find funny. You aren’t always going to make every woman in the room laugh… and that’s okay!

There will be a woman out there whose sense of humor you will connect with yours, so don’t be afraid to show your sense of humor

Oh, and as an bonus tip:

Don’t take yourself so seriously. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself.

If you spill ketchup on your shirt, make a little joke about it, laugh at yourself and soon she’ll be giggling too.

5. Passion and Ambition

A man with a passion for life and a drive to pursue his dreams is extremely attractive to us, women.

You might think women find men in bands attractive because of the “bad boy” persona, but in reality, it’s about their passion for music and their ambition to achieve their goals.

We like men who are athletes or hard-working businessmen for the same reason:

Passion and ambition are instant turn-on’s.

You don’t need to be a famous rock god or a multi-million-dollar lawyer to attract women, either. Choose a hobby, career, or dream that gets you excited and pursue it.

Even if you’re a beginner or are just entering a new career field, the passion you have for that thing will shine through and instantly attract women.

Think about it:

As a man, don’t you like a woman who has interests she’s passionate about and goals she’s working towards?

Of course you do!

It’s the same for us, women.

Seeing a man who’s pursuing his dreams wholeheartedly allows us to see just how wholeheartedly he would pursue other things – like a girl he’s interested in, for example.

Be passionate about what you do

4. A Sense of Style

First impressions are everything and one of the things women find attractive is a man who can dress well.

Being well-dressed and well-groomed isn’t just about looking your best:

It’s about feeling your best, too.

To women, a man who is well-groomed and well-dressed takes pride in his appearance and takes himself seriously.

You don’t have to have a particular style (like outdoorsy or urban) to attract women. You don’t even have to change a ton about your own style.

You just need to look clean and comfortable.

For example:

I love a man with good shoes, a plaid or flannel button-down, and a good-fitting pair of dark wash jeans.

My best friend prefers a more hipster look, with her man in tight skinny jeans and his shirt buttoned all the way to the top.

There really is someone for everyone, and a sense of style isn’t about adopting a particular style of dress…

…it’s more about taking the time to look good and feel good about what you are wearing.

And please:

Don’t wear anything that has a ridiculous catchphrase on it.

Five years ago your frat brother thought your “Female Body Inspector” t-shirt was hilarious.

But believe me, women aren’t amused by it. In fact, we generally roll our eyes at “that guy”.

Oh, and bad body odor is a huge turn off!

Have your own sense of style

3. Confidence

This is a tricky one.

There’s a very fine line between confidence and arrogance.

Confidence is one of the top things women find attractive in men, but arrogance is one of the biggest turnoffs.

To come across confident, don’t be afraid to share your accomplishments, but stop just short of bragging.

Men who’re confident are more than happy to tell a woman about their recent promotion, but will quickly change the topic to ask their lady a question.

This shows us that you aren’t just interested in talking about yourself all night but you are confident in knowing who you are.

A man who’s confident is sexy to women. A man who can’t shut up about his high school track record, on the other hand, is not.

Be confident, not arrogant

2. Good Listening Skills

Being a good listener is a big deal to women because they want to feel heard, valued and respected.

A man who doesn’t have good listening skills can come off as cold, disrespectful and uncaring.

Ask questions about what she’s saying. Not only does asking questions show that you’re actively listening, but it allows your brain to better store the information she’s sharing.

Storing that information, and bringing it back up later, is also an instant way to up your attractiveness to a woman you’re interested in.

I knew my boyfriend was a keeper when he would ask me questions about specific students I was teaching that I had told him stories about.

Not only did he remember the names of the students, but he began remembering their personalities as well.

It was a signal that he valued what I was saying and what I did for a living just as much as he valued me.

You have two ears and one mouth for a reason

1. Kindness and Empathy

You know what serves as a great bait for women?

Pets.

A man with a dog is instantly more attractive to women. Women are attracted to a man with a pet because it shows that he’s kind and empathetic to the needs of another living creature.

If you can take care of a dog, the odds significantly increase that you can take care of her. That might sound crazy, but it is something women subconsciously take note of.

Having a pet also shows a serious level of commitment and responsibility to a potential girlfriend.

So, what happens if you aren’t a pet guy?

Don’t sweat it – this isn’t a deal-breaker! What women are really looking for is a guy who’s kind and compassionate, which can be shown in a numerous ways.

For example:

I love a man who holds doors for people (both women and men). To me, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about the needs of others, and that’s an attractive trait.

Bonus tip:

Women pay attention to how men treat two sets of people:

1. Their mothers
2. Waiters/waitresses

If a man is disrespectful to either one of these sets of people, it’s an immediate turn-off.

Man and his best friend

In Conclusion

Yes, women might be confusing to men…

But when you begin to understand what women find attractive in men – you’ll know exactly how to attract them

I’ve shed some light on what ladies find most attractive in the men they meet, so next time you’re out on the town trying to find a suitable girl, remember:

-Be confident

-Show your sense of humor

-Take initiative

-Listen intently

-Dress well

-Share your passions

-Be compassionate

If you’re conscious of these 7 things, you’ll have no trouble finding a great girl to spend time with.

[AFret.]

What men find attractive.
1. Boobs
2. Bigger boobs
3. Even bigger boobs
4. Huge boobs
5. Ginormous boobs

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Tits are for babies...having a beautiful ass is a woman’s most desirable attribute.

[Ruy Dias de Bivar]

Tex Williams’ MONEY

Don’t want no lovin’, don’t want no kissin’,
Don’t want no gal to call me honey.
Don’t want my name in the Hall of Fame,
Just want a big fat pile of money.

Give me that almighty dollar, for that lettuce hear me holler.
Give me buckets full of ducats, let me walk around and waller
In Mazuma, el dinero, wanna be a millionaro.
Give me money, money, money, money, money.

I want that green ammunition, that’s the stuff for which I’m wishin’.
Fill my closets with deposits, I’m a demon at addition.
Give me sheckels, give me pesos, let me see their smiling face-os,
Money, money, money, money, money.

I wanna get me a suit that’s made out of loot
And whistle the wearing of the green.
I’ve got that monetary-itis, like to be just like King Midas,
Want that golden touch is what I mean.

Give me that old double eagle, want that tender that is legal,
And financially substantially any sum I can inveigle.
Wanna live in regal splendor, with that lovin’ legal tender,
Give me money, money, money, money, money.

I’m a greenback collector, I’m a paper bill inspector,
I’m a savage for that cabbage, man, to me it’s golden nectar.
Pour that filthy lucre on me, spread those lovin’ germs upon me,
Give me money, money, money, money, money.

Just let me roll ‘round upon it, stuff those bank rags in my bonnet,
Any kind, just so some president has got his picture on it.
Let me feel it, let me hold it, let me just sit there and fold it,
Give me money, money, money.

I wanna car load of cash, the kind I can stash
A vat full of vo-do-de-oh-dough.
You know your banker never lets it matter whereabouts you gets it.
Has you got it, boy? That’s all he wants to know.

Give me treasure I can measure, ‘cause that’s my idea of pleasure,
Give me wampum, guilders, geetas, let me count it at my leisure,
Let me live in regal splendor with that lovin’ legal tender,
Give me money, money, money, money!

And if they ever plant trees of E Pluribus Unum,
I wanna be the guy that they send out to prune ‘em!
Money, money, money, money, money!

[metmom]

As for being a good listener, it depends. Women do not want the listener who finds solutions to her problems. She does not like Mr Fix it, teachers and men in position of adversaries. They want someone to make them talk and act like he is not against her as a result.

True that.

Women often talk to vent. Don't try to fix it for them or condemn her for how she's feeling.

If in doubt, ask her if she wants you to help her fix it.

By just spending the time listening, it tells her you care about her, that she's important enough to you to spend time on without it having to lead to sex.

Because even for a woman who likes sex, no woman wants to feel like that's the only thing her husband cares to interact with her for. That leads to feeling used and I guarantee you, she doesn't want to feel like you're using her just to satisfy your sex drive and pretending like you're doing her a favor.

[metmom]

That’s why mullets are coming back into style.

WORST. HAIRCUT. EVER.

[drSteve78]

Relevant Al Bundy quote “ Don’t try to understand Women; Women understand Women, and they hate each other.”

[central_va]

So women want to bitch in general and for us to just listen to it. Check.

[ozarkgirl]

1 through 7 should be money.

Well, I guess if you've got nothing else going for you - there is that... but you won't get a good girl that way.

[glock rocks]

Hon, while you’re venting, would you make me a sammich?

[DesertRhino]

Money...

[tflabo]

I used to care about such criteria but lately not so much. If one has to be a phony to ‘attract’ then what’s the end result?

[DesertRhino]

It’s a mistake to do anything to make yourself attractive to them. No need to dance like a monkey on a stick to attract a problem

[metmom]

Now, there’s the mistake.

You say *Awwww, that must be awful. I’m so sorry you have to go through that. * Or some such benign sympathetic phrases.

And offer to wash the dishes. Even if you only do a few, and she turns you down, she’ll appreciate the thought.

THEN you ask her to make the sammich.

[metmom]

Because men NEVER complain about anything, right?

They’re all perfect.

yeah..........

[metmom]

I used to care about such criteria but lately not so much. If one has to be a phony to ‘attract’ then what’s the end result?

Divorce.

[central_va]

Actually bitching is NOT a manly trait. Suffer in silence is what most of us do, and drink.

[karnage]

What a shallow, knee-jerk response! Please allow me to educate you:

1) Money
2) Diversified Stock Portfolio
3) Real estate
4) High-value collectibles
5) Precious metals
6) Elderly, infirm wealthy parents
7) Money

[Mariner]

Shall we have another discussion on what men find attractive in women?

Or, is that not necessary:)

[Navy Patriot]

Hummmm, I thought there were only two criteria:

Can I use him to get what I want, and

Will I have to uphold my part of the bargain?

[Colonel Kangaroo]

Apparently this is the picture of what many women find attractive: