Homer, you do remember your promise to the children?
Sure do! When you're 18, you're out the door!
Posted on 05/22/2018 5:01:09 PM PDT by EdnaMode
The parents Honda Element is in the driveway. Enough said.
Change the locks. Punch him in the gut a kick him in the nads.
Castle Doctrine applies.
We intentionally decided before we had kids that our job as parents was to train our kids to be a little more independent every single day, from the day they were born.
That began with dressing themselves. By the age of 4, they made their own breakfast and lunch most days.
Our four are all adults. We apparently did our job well. Two are completely out of the house and independent.
Number three is back for a couple weeks. He just graduated college last week. He still has a very high paying part time college job and is holding off moving out until he gets a full time gig. He might move in with a couple college buddies who just rented a house. His job pays enough to cover it.
Number four may stick around a while. He has a summer volunteer commitment at a Christian youth camp, then he’s got a full time truck driving job potentially lined up. The salary is pushing $50K so he’ll be paying commensurate rent. I’m thinking $400 a month or so, plus he still cuts the grass.
I’ve heard what I consider absolute horror stories about deadbeat kids. My mom told me of someone she knows who built a new home with downstairs apartments for the adult children. Flipping insane.
A lady I worked with told me she had to rush home to make lunches for her boys. I asked how old they were. “18, 21 and 24.” I had a hard time holding back my comments.
Men (I use the term lightly) who refuse to work so they won’t have to pay child support are lowdown skunks. If they’re not allowed to see the kid(s), but would like to, get a job, pay the back support (and room and board til it’s paid), then go back to court and get the rights to see them. If it’s the court system who won’t allow them to see the kids, then there’s probably a good reason. Give up your parental rights, get a job of some kind, and rent a room somewhere. There are men in this world, who come here and work 2 or 3 jobs for years, living in bare subsistence situations, to earn enough money to provide a home and send for the wife and kids. If they can do that, so should our own pampered men.
Actually, pity the parents.
Have you heard what the 30 year old said after the judge ruled? The son has no conscience. Rules don’t apply to him. Laws don’t apply to him.
I’m glad mom and dad won... but there’s trouble ahead.
Knew it. Look at that smirk. Probably the first time he’s had any sort of clothes over his old holey underwear in years.
Parents should have called the cops for trespassing and had the locks changed.
I think you may not know what you are talking about. If he is 31 years old, he is considered “mature” by every authority on this planet. If he is mentally ill, his parents should have him evaluated by a local psychological or psychiatric group.
Grifters and others like that need to be handled firmly so that they will actually leave. Don’t feed them, don’t provide any amenities...tell them firmly the date is set for them to be gone.... Give them options for military service, etc.
Parents are NOT responsible for adult children. There does come a time when each person self accountable. This man is 10 years older than that first self accountability.
Sister? Ridiculous. For what would she sue?????
And no, many parents shudder at the thought of their children being responsible for their care. What a sad, self pitying and selfish position for the parents.
Too bad about the auntie. She may have been a harridan.
This depends on the jurisdiction. In places that privilege the renter over landlord, it is difficult to evict someone who pays rent and even harder if they’ve never paid rent.
There are horror stories of the person you let move in to “help” without a rental agreement, and then they refuse to leave.
And a few where the person is hired as live-in help and refuses to work, and when the agreement doesn’t say “residence conditional on employment”, people have spent months trying to evict them.
Our neighbor across the street is the same way. He graduated HS the same year we moved in. He’s now in his 4th year at the local 2-year college.
He had a live-in girlfriend right out of HS. They broke up and a few months later he was shacking up with a new girl. I don’t know how his parents let him live there with his GF, especially since they still have a daughter in school.
His car gets new dents every couple of months but instead of fixing it, he spends his money on new wheels and a stereo system. Straight up loser, IMO, and yet he still finds a girl...
The Obamacare fiasco saying “it is OK to depend on parents til you’re 26” certainly doesn’t help in this continual expansion of the dependent state.
lowlife bum
Yeah, this kid always has a pretty girl. It’s actually made me wonder if he’s a dealer and splashing some money at them, but more likely just 2 druggies getting together.
Not so easy we have a family situation with two brothers in their thirties that refuse to move out. Aunt spoke with both the lawyer and police. Told nothing to do unless abusive.
I’m I the only one that believes that this is a publicity stunt for money?
1. In NYS Child support goes to age 21
2. In NYS “children” can be on their parent’s insurance till age 29
3. He still owes the child support, it is accruing with penalties and interest and will be retroactive to the child’s birth.
4. In theory, visitation is NOT related to paying child support. There are many, many more men who are paying LOTS of CS and being refused access to their children than the other way around.
My husband got $800 behind in CS due to job situation and he received threatening nasty grams from CSEU stating he can go to jail or have his drivers and professional licenses revoked.
This 30 year old has been enabled by mommykins and stepdaddybigbucks for many, many years. Coddled and treated as a “special snowflake” but now that he can’t be on mommykins/stepdaddybigbucks health insurance, some sort of alarm bell went off in said “parents” heads. Decades late.
Can go to 29 in NYS
I saw this loser all over the Fox shows last night. No other word but loser. He had no shame over his position, which any respectable person would have been embarrassed by. And now he is proud to be known by millions of viewers as a LOSER.
But what a parenting failure. My kids knew that my job as a parent was to teach them to be independent contributors to society, and I started their awareness of that at a very early age. These parents clearly failed and continued to fail over many years.
“These parents clearly failed and continued to fail over many years.”
I cannot believe you are blaming the parents.
Who know why this idiot turned out the way he did but sometimes parents can do everything right and still get a dysfunctional child.
I also know parents who did everything wrong and got great kids.
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