Posted on 03/26/2018 5:47:22 AM PDT by SandRat
Most people have a Wish List. Some may call it a Bucket List, but they are not necessarily the same.
A Bucket List usually refers to things we want to do or places we want to see before we die.
A Wish List typically itemizes stuff we want to accumulate while we are still kicking.
Sometimes the Bucket and the Wish cross paths. That happens when the person compiling the two is unclear on the concept of Wish and Bucket.
If you are an enthusiastic shopper with sufficient funds, it is possible you support the “see something, buy it” mindset. However, some shoppers enjoy or prefer looking without buying. They may choose to window shop because they lack funds. Or they desire the pure delight of spending time alone without someone demanding they hurry up.
My mother was the queen of looking but not buying. If you doubt me, please consider that mother spent eight hours in a sizable craft store window shopping. It must have been relaxing because she came home smiling. When she shopped with the eyes rather than the wallet she compiled various wish lists.The lists may include a few items for her, but mostly listed gifts she’d like to buy for family and friends.
On the other hand, grocery shopping with our father, the king of impatience, was a weekly ordeal. You could say those times were her purgatory on earth.
No, he did not walk around the store dropping items in the shopping cart like Hubby tends to do. Father sat in the car, waiting. As you might have guessed, the longer he had to wait, the more agitated he became.
When it came to shopping, in the store or online, mother’s two daughters did not follow in her look-but-not-buy footsteps.
One daughter loves to shop, but she likes to buy, not just look. Her motto: I like it. It is a bargain at that price. I’m buying a dozen, whether I need it or not. Is that how hoarders approach their excessive accumulation lifestyle?
This writer abhors shopping, including grocery shopping. If we did not need fuel to survive, buying groceries would be the first thing crossed off my Must Do list. I walk in; buy the necessary item or items, and leave. No longing looks and lingering for this gal.
Often something catches my eye, but I talk myself out of buying it. Of course there have been times I regretted that decision. Oh well.
Perhaps the less one has, the more a person wants. This attitude is understandable among folks not born with silver spoons in their mouth. If that is the case, what do those who have everything wish to possess? From pure observation, they tend to accumulate for tax write-off purposes or just because they can.
It is a good thing we are not wealthy because clutter is annoying. As it is, we have more than we need or want. In fact, this writer’s focus is finding happy homes for as many of her possessions as possible. That may sound odd to you. But when you consider that belongings need care, at least dusting, and they take up space, it makes perfect sense.
The problem is it takes time and effort to match your belonging with happy homes.
Life is a constant evolution. What we wished for and obtained may become too much. Nowadays, our wish is to find people who need what we no longer use without enduring the brain damage of a garage sale.
Besides, who wants to buy garages?
Yep. Done most of them. Gotta go to the Dakotas and Black hills on camping trip, win the lottery, and watch Hillary hang for treason. Those are the big ones left.
I can’t begin to tell you how repugnant I find the term “bucket list.”
It seems to imply that the sole purpose of life is to gather experiences before it’s over because, after it is, there’s nothing else.
Nowhere is the realization that what we do here determines where we end up after death. And if we only spend it on bucket list activities, we might regret that in the afterlife.
Is there a ‘most shallow writer’ competition going on? If so this bimbo gets my vote.
I agree.
I want to go to Athens, Tennessee and get a BLT and wash it down with some Mayfield Milk and follow that up with some Mayfield Ice Cream. Not asking for much in my old age.
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Alaska. In our RV on a ferry.
But also have a coma list - movies to have on if/when I’m in a coma.
When the Day of the Settling of Accounts arrives, I have a list of Places to Go, People to Meet and Things to Do.
i sort of like to see Hillary and Bill, both being eaten alive, by salt water Crocodiles or Macho Sharks.
i write a list every day!
His Mom takes him "shopping". They try on everything in the store, look at every single option, and go back to cross reference prior options before a purchase is made. It sometimes can take hours, and they don't always get something.
I take him "buying". For instance, he needed socks. We went to the store, went to the sock aisle. I said, "Socks. Do you want 'White' or 'Colored'? 'High' or 'short'?" He told me his preference, I said, "Great, this is what you asked for and it's on sale. Look good to you?" "Yep." and we were done.
Total time, 5 minutes. Maybe. Now, he likes going "buying" with Dad. Even took him shoe-buying, which is rarely any fun..."Does this fit? No? How about this? No?" and so on.... and he didn't mind it all that much.
Can't blame the kid, looking at clothes for hours, when all you need are a shirt and a pair of pants, makes little sense to me, too.
Thank you.
I have a couple, the one I’m working on now is sorting, organizing, repairing and culling my 40 year accumulation of construction tools, equipment, materials, and assorted detritus so my wife and kids aren’t overwhelmed should something happen to me.
Also to finish and fix any outstanding details of my properties. I’m very close to finishing that task and when my mind is at ease I can concentrate on living and the other “lists”. I can’t stand the thought of being one of “those guys” that leaves a mess to clean up.
There is absolutely no way would I sit in the car waiting while someone was inside a store shopping.
Fire ants. Slow and painful.
This is really accumulation versus a wish/desire list.
About 5 years ago we stop buying a lot of stuff.
Then, about 2 years ago we started really giving stuff away to family, friends and charities.
Last year, my wife went on an “If you/I/we don’t use it, lets get rid of it, purge.
Our city has developed a culture of putting stuff on the curb with a free sign on the stuff or by it. Our problem with this great free recycling is living on a small dead end cul de sac without a lot of traffic. (Which is why we bought our home 4 decades ago.)
So, we went on a daily “Put something on the curb for free!”. At first my wife was hesitant to do this. She got into the game after some great results.
We had two neighbors doing major house repairs so there were lots of construction workers, handy men and laborers driving up and down the street. I/we tried to get the stuff on the curb before 8 am so the workers would see it.
My wife often would say this stuff isn’t going to be picked up. Sometimes after the morning traffic slowed down, basically every thing was gone. By the end of the work day, everything would be gone.
We have had the same yard man for decades, and I helped he and his wife get citizenship. A similar situation with our
house cleaning lady existed. They have become our goodwill pickup and distributors before stuff went to the curb. Our yard guy had a friend from the LA area drive up to get our yard glider and huge charcoaler and smoker and some bigger yard tools.
We took other stuff to our local Goodwill. Some neighbors and people we know have a terrible time getting anything accepted by Goodwill. The only thing they turned down from us was a box of non electric games. Which we gave to the daughter of the lady who cleans our house. She ran her own day care and was glad to get non electric games.
We had one thing not taken at the curb. It is a heavy black metal disc about 12 inches in diameter with drilled holes in it. I don’t remember what it was for, none of the curb picker uppers and family members knew what it was nor wanted it. So my wife planted Glad bulbs around it, and it still lays in the same spot after about a year.
As we get older with more and more people trying to tell us how to live, pray and etc., the more important John 3:16 becomes to us.
Yup. I have a list of people who need to kick the bucket. It's getting to the point that a list of people who don't need to kick the bucket would be easier to keep.
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