Posted on 09/26/2017 4:14:18 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Every day at work as a doctor and at home as a parent, I am taught something all good footy coaches know: it's what's between your ears that matters most.
There currently seems to be a lot of talk about what you need between your legs to be allowed to marry, when really we need to devote our attention to the brain.
The brain is the organ of greatest significance for human relationships and wellbeing. It's the organ I've studied most in my training as an expert in the mental health of parenthood.
And it's the organ that will change at least slightly in each of us when we finally enshrine marriage equality as a society.
I am confident these brain changes will be positive for our children.
It's about emotional safety, grounded in the best that brain science and clinical practice has taught me so far.
Feeling safe matters
Emotional safety is the security of knowing your family — whoever is in it — will keep you physically safe, because your emotions tell you you are safe enough in that family.
Life is so much less stressful that way, and people are much healthier in body and mind. I've trained as a psychiatrist, and that's what my work is about.
The postal survey is a threat to us
I've spent a bit of time recently thinking about what exactly it is the Liberals find so threatening about my family, writes Cathy Brown. I ask parents daily: "Can you think about what you and your child feel? Can you keep your child in mind? Can you ensure you act, both alone and in connection with other adults, to ensure your child feels safe and loved enough?
"If so, your child will more likely feel respect for their humanity and their basic rights. They can be celebrated just for existing. They can be supported to learn from mistakes made amid the mess of daily human life. Crucially, they are not abused."
That is emotional safety.
At its core I think this marriage-equality issue comes down to whose emotional safety matters more.
Opponents of change seem to fear a breakdown in social fabric, and a loss of the emotional safety offered by tradition.
Proponents of change fear ongoing loss of emotional safety steeped in millennia of persecution.
Any resulting vitriol from either side speaks volumes about underlying fear — ad hominem attacks amid emotional danger.
Do you think same-sex marriage will lead to a "less stressful" life for children? Will it lead to a more compassionate and understanding environment? Join the discussion. Babies first, always
For guidance in this complexity, I look to our babies. I think of their emotional safety.
Our society is coming to accept the science of infant mental health: for us to survive and thrive we must put babies' wellbeing first.
To put all babies born today first, and not some babies ahead of other babies, we simply have to grow as a society to welcome and respect diversity.
I don't want to have to raise my children worrying about how the world will treat them if they are LGBTIQ. I want a world where it doesn't matter whether my kids feel male or female or something else. Where it doesn't matter if my kids like boys or girls or have moved past all that binary stuff and just want somebody who gets them.
The rest is noise. It's noisy out there right now, but it will pass. My kids will be valued for who they are, and I'll go to work with others striving to provide that for all our kids.
Eventually the law will catch up. Childhood will be less stressful as a result, and our society healthier.
Three predictions for kids
I have three predictions about the lasting effects of same-sex marriage, based on my observations as a father and a doctor with experience of hundreds of young families.
1. Children who are born and grow up LGBTIQ will have less stressful lives from the outset.
Because they will grow up free of the looming deprivation of the right accorded their peers, to marry someone someday.
Marriage equality helps recognise them as full humans, so all domains of life are likely to be less stressful for them.
How Australians think about same-sex marriage, mapped
Polling consistently shows most voters support same-sex marriage — but how do views vary across the country? 2. Children born to LGBTIQ parents will have less stressful lives from the outset.
Because more people will have moved on from worrying about whether their parents' relationship is unallowable or harmful. Fewer people will judge or mistreat them.
Bullies take their cues from their seniors, and fear being left out. Once bullies see everyone else has moved on, they will have to tag along too.
3. All other children will be born into a more tolerant society, and have less stressful lives from the outset.
Because same-sex marriage leads the way towards treating all human difference with compassion and respect.
So kids born with any kind of difference will receive more compassion and respect.
The rest of our kids will grow from treating others with more compassion and respect. And all our kids will grow more securely, in less fear of the possibility they could be different from others.
We will all worry less about being different from others, and get on with life.
Dr Matthew Roberts is an author, musician and perinatal psychiatrist. A version of this article first appeared on his blog My Doctor's Handwriting.
Really?
Really?
Well, we know why this writer isn’t in real science, don’t we?
When insanity prevails, catastrophe follows.
Alas, Brave New Babylon.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-bloggers/3058882/posts
Same sex marriage - -
What children?
All other children will be born into a more tolerant society, and have less stressful lives from the outset.
Because same-sex marriage leads the way towards treating all human difference with compassion and respect.
Ahh haaahaahaaa ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!
I remember when I was a kid, people’s parents voted for different candidates. It was as ok and accepted as if people’s parents drank different drinks or wanted mustard or ketchup.
If the other parents at my kids’ schools knew how I voted, my kids would not be treated decently.
Not all human difference is accepted by these ever-tolerant libs. No difference of opinion is tolerated. Being religious is not tolerated. And being conservative or voting Trump is DEFINITELY not tolerated. But if I were living in a lesbian threesome, everyone would rush to have us over.
Most homosexuals were sexually abused as children.
They seek to normalize their behavior to attain easier access to SEXUALLY ABUSE YOUR CHILDREN.
MY prediction:
More children will be sexually abused and the RAPISTS will get away with it because society has accepted the behavior.
So what will it be next?
What kind of degenerate activity will these broken people need to engage in to be ‘edgy’?
Will they come for your children?
Will they demand plural marriage?
Will they come for the animals?
Will they demand to have sex with dead bodies?
What kind of sickness will it take to ‘satisfy’ these mentally ill monsters?
Good questions...
Homosexuality’s now formal endorsement will lead to more people identifying as such and as bisexual.
STD rates will go up until the next pandemic literally goes viral ... and there are antibiotic resistant strains already circulating in the LBGT community.
Transgenderism will pop up in full force within six months, leading to mentally ill men gaining full access to women’s facilities in a few years.
Women will be pushed out of women’s sports by mentally ill men.
With “marriage” legalized, it will become illegal to criticize it unless you’re Muslim.
Fury as watchdog says it’s OK to send gay people death threats – but only if you’re Muslim
http://www.express.co.uk/news/world/739275/Dutch-watchdog-OK-send-gay-people-death-threats-Muslim
People who aren’t gay, will claim to be gay. There’s just too much benefit to it.
WHERE’S THE BARF ALERT!?!?!?!?
Yep
Yes, all goals of these disgusting perverts.
Same sex couples are biological dead ends.
This is a doctor who does not know the crucial need for babies and children to experience thesense of safety only a male mind and heart and physique can give which is qualitatively different from that a female mind, heart, and physique can give? And that both are crucial? Help.
Excuse me...what trash are you trying to say, moron?
Kids need a mother and father. Anyone that says otherwise, is a liar.
yeah and I "want" a world where Unicorns shit Skittles and the creek don't rise in the spring...,
As my Grand father used to say...Shit in 1 hand and "wish" in the other....See what hand fills up 1st and make your decisions accordingly...
So, destroying the concept of marraige well be better for children because it will be better for society, and it will be better for society because it will be better for children.
Talk about circular logic or lack of it.
The proponent is just saying: I want this, therefore it is good!
This article gives credence.to Piled Higher & Deeper for Ph D. The wise psychiatrists totally disagree with this foolishness. God is good. We are His creation. Genesis 1:1
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