Maybe. Or maybe she is a spoiled millennial princess.
People who believe they are entitled to bring their kids with them everywhere are nuts. If your children are not invited to the wedding, don’t bring them. If your children are invited, but start acting up, scoop them up and take them home.
Question is, If they hate kids.....and won’t have them.....it’s the whole ‘Idiocracy’ thing....the future of America is President Mountain Dew Camacho..... and lawyers graduating from Costco Law School.
BS!
I love seeing children at a wedding. Had children at my wedding. However, every bride has a right to the wedding she envisions. If that means no children, then so be it.
This snobs dream wedding is a destination wedding.
My second cousin’s kid had one in the Caribbean somewhere. I, thankfully wasn’t invited (of course I wouldn’t go anyway). My parents (read, Mother ) would have gone, but their fixed income status made that impossible. So few people made the trip, that the cousin had a party, locally, for family a month later (probably to garner more presents).
My daughter just got married last weekend. She and her husband footed the entire bill. It cost about $130 per person. And this was one of the better prices she could get.
At $130 a head, they decided not to invite children.
The youngest person to attend was a fourteen year old cousin who behaved as if he were 20.
Every time I go shopping with Mom, we encounter a child having a tantrum, whining, bawling, disrupting.
Mom always says some variant of:
You never did that.
You never would have.
You never did that even at home.
Now I find myself hoping that she will always remember this and return the favor. :D
That said, I find the writer, on the eve of matrimony, uncommonly sour on one of life’s greatest blessings.
Unless she's buying plane tickets and paying for hotel rooms for all her guests, that's just rude. Get married at the courthouse for fifty bucks, and then take yourself on a nice vacation.
I won't bother coming, either. Have a nice life.
Bummer lady. Guess you’ll be missing out on one monetary gift.
A good friend’s wedding was ruined by a very young niece ( specifically NOT invited and the mother was told NOT to bring her) who chose the moment they were taking their vows to start crying and scream, hitting a Mariah Carey-like high note. Her mother grabbed her, put her hand over her mouth and charged up the aisle to take her outside. It was just awful. Absolutely ruined their wedding and no, it is not funny when you look at the tape of it. My friend almost started crying.
And I can’t STAND those parents who have the attitude the writer discussed, the ones whose kids HAVE to be included in everything. Ugh.
I don’t have a problem with the “no kids” request. Every head is a huge expense for the bride/bride’s family, whether at a glitzy hall or catered in a church rec hall.
I used to be Wedding Coordinator at a five-star resort in Hawaii. Many of the couples just wanted something very small — almost an elopement. In the end, a destination wedding was cheaper and less hassle than having it at home.
And then there were those who were accustomed to wretched excess so the wedding and activities were huge, disgustingly expensive, and carnival like and that’s another whole story.
For our wedding 20 years ago, we not only had other people’s kids there, but kids table at the reception. This was just before the digital camera era when disposable film cameras were cheap. Each of our tables at the reception had a disposable camera with a note telling those at the table to take all the pictures the film has on it and leave it behind. The best pictures we got from all those cameras, was from the one left on the kids table.
She’s planning a wedding, not a marriage.
Common problem these days.
The most common observances I have of young parents..I’m am old old school one.. I have are as follows in general
Black dads in public are rare as hens teeth
Black moms kids are as ill behaved as they are
Latinos have lots of kids and dad rules and this kids at least at wal mart are ok
And Latinos have kids and kids and kids
Ditto orientals but dad doesn’t rule
Arabs or muzz dad really rules but the women are aggressive and loud none the less
Kids in public are quiet....very much so...as in meek
Dad is iron born in the family
Single white moms have little control and just threaten and indulge ad nauseum
White dads discipline some but mom keeps his parenting balls secured away unless really needed
Having lived in Jewish population concentrations years ago it struck me the less religious were super indulgent which was off putting droning on and on ..at least to me raised in the strict south.....
Now I look around and all education class millennialis do the same thing I noticed in Manhattan so long ago now
I blame women, lack of dads and media
That was ruined what would have been our best class of parents
And white trash rarely marries anymore but when they do it tends to be traditional family just loud
Most white trash babies where I live come from fat fatherless moms and the babies are half black
My pastor made the point yesterday that weddings used to be celebrated as part of the regular mass on Sundays. It was considered a community celebration.
Destination weddings, unless you are returning home, are selfish on the part of the marrying couple.
“I want to travel a long way so I don’t have to travel for the honeymoon, and I want you to come!” And she’s adding a caveat “I want you to come but without the children, though that’s your cost/hassle for childcare back home or at the destination!”