Posted on 05/25/2015 6:58:50 PM PDT by rickmichaels
In this still-fragile financial climate, some women might have chosen to hide the Chanel shopping bag from their budget-conscious better halves. With mortgages to pay and family holidays to save up for, it’s still not quite the done thing to blow half your bonus on something as frivolous as a pair of shoes (in this case a seductively glistening pair of Chanel ballet pumps in a classic French navy that I’d coveted for months), even if the bonus is something you have worked your socks off for.
But, instead of surreptitiously stuffing the shoes in the back of the wardrobe, I proudly displayed the results of my splurge to my husband, safe in the knowledge that he’d approve. After all, he’s the one who decided how much my bonus should be – and he’s the one who paid it. This year, as for almost all of the five years we’ve been married, I’m the grateful recipient of a “wife bonus” – and proud of it.
I’m part of a tribe of women uncovered by social researcher Wednesday Martin in her book Primates of Park Avenue — about well-to-do mothers in Manhattan — who, while not going out to work in an office or for a company, still receive a bonus from their husband at the end of the financial year as a sign of appreciation for services rendered.
But while the “Park Avenue primates” have been pilloried for supposedly receiving a cash reward based on how well they have balanced the domestic books, enhanced their husbands’ careers by networking adeptly and aggressively, and kept them satisfied socially and sexually, I believe that receiving a bonus for being a good wife is nothing to be ashamed of.
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How about the signing bonuses for them?
and the smart ones in 2015 still do. we learned from our Mothers. And our grandmothers. we have mastered the art of paycheck control. bwahahahahaah
Some women make it their business to marry well and not just once.
I knew a stay at home Mom whose husband gave her $1500 a month just to spend on herself. That was almost 20 years ago, and I thought it was pretty generous.
Advice to young marrieds: Keep the wife happy or she’ll make your life a living h*ll.
Yeah, apparently so. I’m so slow on learning all the tricks of the world.
I met an old lady whose life would stop at 4pm to watch Dr. Oz. The harebrained crap she took away from that quack was on par with Oprah.
Appropriate, since Dr. Oz is an Oprah creation, just like Dr. Phil.
Oz first appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show in 2004, and later on Larry King Live and other TV programs. In 2009, The Dr. Oz Show, a daily television program focusing on medical issues and personal health, was launched by Winfrey’s Harpo Productions and Sony Pictures.[4]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mehmet_Oz
There used to be another term for it, lol.
How about 2 year contracts with performance bonuses? At the end of 2 years, re-sign or head into arbitration.
Send them to the minors for rehab, designate for assignment, waivers, morality clause, etc.
They don't watch daytime T.V.; the "lunch", shop, go to the gym, belong to book clubs, take lessons in flower arranging, cooking classes, and have absolutely NOTHING in common with the old lady you posted about.
Sounds like a plan to me!
What if she already has access to you bank account?
Whatever, sweetie. As long as you don't mind being treated like an employee at the whim of your boss.
Sorry, but this is depressing.
The wife has incentive to keep her husband's career and home life on track and she gets money to freely indulge her whims.
The husband is acknowledging the value of his wife's work.
Believe me I have seen many a career derailed by a spouse.
Given what we can glean of these couples’ socio-economic status it’s safe to assume that the wife could have a successful career of her own, but they decided she should be an at home mom. I think the ‘bonus’ is a way of her having money just for her, to splurge on the things she would buy if she were pulling in her own paychecks. Quite separate and apart from household expenses. For those who can afford it, it’s actually a great idea.
I think you summed up what I felt when I read this, too.
I long for the day Christ comes back and starts setting this place back right. Can’t come fast enough.
I still don’t understand it. He is basically telling her how much she is “allowed” to frivolously spend on herself. She must not be the person who handles the money in the family.
A relative is married to a former executive for Dow Jones... if they were not salt of the earth people she would undoubtedly fit your example.
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