Posted on 12/16/2014 4:54:36 PM PST by SeekAndFind
“There is the downside of having a medical crisis and having no one to call 911’’. That’s what LIFE ALERT is for. The real downside is best put(apologies to Bobby Darin) ...’’and a hand/that I can hold/to feel near/as I grow old...’’
Being your own man until the end... good enough.
....”Some of us are now beyond the chance to find a companion to share the last years”....
Companions can be found whereever people gather...from sports to clubs, entertainment venues etc. But you do have to attend these.
One guy at a church service, when they ask for prayer, had a prepared statement announcing he was interested in having company when he went for dinner and would like to invite any interested. Though certainly not the norm...he was very surprised at all the offers from the ladies thereafter. He married one of them.
I don’t know what you consider too old....but my mother re-married at 67 and her mate was 72.
I can do both...not uncommon I have a ‘clothes explosion’ in my bedroom when deciding what to wear to work...but I am organized which is key I think. So I just take care of it when I get home.
My place is comfortably lived in. I’d have no problem getting unexpected guest at any time....
Lordy, that’s the best laugh I’ve had all week!
I’ve been living alone so long now (roughly around 20 years) I can’t imagine any other way to live.
That would be me too...I had a hard time getting adjusted at first...I think most do as the change is so profound. But it does get easier and better until you realize it’s pretty alright to go it alone.
Then you discover the positives....often unexpectedly. And sometimes these are simple things. I’m not very good at cooking so i don’t do it very often, but when I do what a pleasure it is....until I see the mess I made! LOLOLOL...
I’ll be doing Christmas alone this year and looking forward to planning for it.... it won’t be the first time so i know exactly what to do that’s enjoyable and festive...for one!
One is never alone when one has the Lord!
Quite so. The author writes as though living alone is always a choice. For many, it's not.
More important than the lack of opportunity to be annoyed by others is the real danger of living alone. You don't have to be old and fragile to become suddenly sick, or fall down the stairs, or to become the victim of crime. People who live alone do die sooner than married people, who will at least have someone around to call an ambulance.
That sounds like my son and his wife ....though he tends to procrastinat she’s a by the book gal....so they compliment each other very well.
They both had several years being on their own so they had to learn how to be married..and this under one roof. She learned how to be more relaxed he leraned to be more tidy....it was a good adjustment for both.
I am in my 4thyear since divorce.I live alone, and like it.
Found out I am a way better cook than my ex...
I keep the house substantially cleaner...
I always know where the friggin clicker is...
Laundry is always done on time...
Everything the OP said, and i am content to be alone.
Understand though, that i don’t want to be alone. And I have fantastic options in the other direction, to include a very fine 37 yr old that i could easily pursue (iam early 50’s).
But many of my hats, pariarch, son, father, and grandfather... all of these could be damaged by fast, selfish moves...
If i go there, it will be with an abundance of deliberation, and a friendship so long and abiding that it becomes so part-of-the-furniture as to be of no surprise, and actually encouraged by those around me.
Hence, it is not out of insularity or selfishness that i am here, but rather because of a deep sense of responsibility.
All that you listed happens to those living with others as well.
I have loved living alone since my husband died. I’ve become a bit selfish and set in my ways but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
well, hmmmm.......based upon “reality” vs “dreaming” would you really want to?
I was engaged about 3 years ago in my early sixties. I thank god every day it fell through!
AMEN
I think the issue you raise is important and I have talked to my doc about it who is also my best friend socially
of 43 years. He advises that my chances of having a death incident so sudden that I couldn’t hit three buttons on the cell phone are closer to none than they are to slim.
Three things I do even though I am very active and feel as good as I did at 25 (most of the time) are that around the house I either wear a shirt with a pocket or a little cheap vest with lots of pockets. This is so my cell phone will ALWAYS be in arms reach.
The second thing I do is to specifically try and ALWAYS keep the darn thing at maximum charge.
The third thing I do is that each day is built around exercise, exercise, exercise. I get bored with one exercise so I have about 3 that I alternate. They are golf (walking), tennis, swimming and bike riding. And, my attitude is “it’s a good day if I exercise and a bad day if I don’t”. So, I hit about 95%. Weather this time of year is my biggest enemy.
Especially the murders.
“I plan to die with dignity at the bottom of the basement stairs just like God intended.”
Love it!
And the one about never being too old too. Really need to hear that this Christmas too.
ROTFLMAO....You made me chuckle. Just the way you expressed it.
That is fantastic. Such great memories I am sure. Here is to 25 more....and 25 after that.
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