We don’t disagree. I have four out of four sucessf
We helped each to varying degrees
And that’s the thing. There is nothing wrong with family helping family.
But when young adults *expect* it and *demand* it and parents are *shamed* into coddling their adult offspring, then we have a problem.
Both of my kids had periods where they had to come home after life hit them hard. We took them in and helped them get back on their feet.
They *appreciate* it because they know that it was a gift. They didn’t expect it or demand it and hubs and I felt no obligation to give it to them.
Family backs up family. But people shouldn’t be shamed who have faith that their grown children are adults who can survive and prosper without crutches.