And that’s the thing. There is nothing wrong with family helping family.
But when young adults *expect* it and *demand* it and parents are *shamed* into coddling their adult offspring, then we have a problem.
Both of my kids had periods where they had to come home after life hit them hard. We took them in and helped them get back on their feet.
They *appreciate* it because they know that it was a gift. They didn’t expect it or demand it and hubs and I felt no obligation to give it to them.
Family backs up family. But people shouldn’t be shamed who have faith that their grown children are adults who can survive and prosper without crutches.
We have taken our younger son in 3 times. When he came back from marine MSG duty in Jordan and got his feet on the ground. He went to work and school.
When he was in LA he decided our local Oceanside community college had the best math program.
When he got a job in our area and needed to get established in the area.
We have always been open to helping with a room if they are going to school and working.
As his wedding gift, we are providing the honeymoon travel and lodging. Part is using our annual time share for a big cruise discount.
Each of our four has needed various amounts of help. Our older daughter none at all. We provided a 10% down payment on home purchases for two. Own ten percent of one and the other bought us out.
Our kids have always been motivated school and work. They are the kind of people (like their mother) we don’t think twice about helping.