We have taken our younger son in 3 times. When he came back from marine MSG duty in Jordan and got his feet on the ground. He went to work and school.
When he was in LA he decided our local Oceanside community college had the best math program.
When he got a job in our area and needed to get established in the area.
We have always been open to helping with a room if they are going to school and working.
As his wedding gift, we are providing the honeymoon travel and lodging. Part is using our annual time share for a big cruise discount.
Each of our four has needed various amounts of help. Our older daughter none at all. We provided a 10% down payment on home purchases for two. Own ten percent of one and the other bought us out.
Our kids have always been motivated school and work. They are the kind of people (like their mother) we don’t think twice about helping.
Exactly. But if they expect it, demand it, pout and cry if they don’t get it, and are mad at you for not making their lives easier, then they’re not the kind of people worth helping.
The blanket attitude that parents should always bail their kids out is wrong.