Posted on 10/10/2014 8:13:15 PM PDT by Morgana
Today, Jennifer Lawrence’s exclusive cover story with Vanity Fair hits the stands. The popular Hunger Games’ star speaks openly about the internet scandal involving the stolen nude photos of her. She calls it a “sex crime,” and says that anyone who purposely looked at the photos of her is guilty.
Lawrence is right that, just because someone is a public figure, it doesn’t give the general public – or anyone in particular – a right to view stolen photos of them.
But Lawrence also got it deeply wrong. In explaining why the nude photos were taken of her in the first place, she said:
I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.
Whoa, whoa, J.Law. Wait a minute, there. “Either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you”? And this is a “healthy” relationship?
This is an absolutely terrible standard to set for today’s women, and for today’s men as well. And it’s about as anti-woman as you can get.
Men do not need to look at porn, and contrary to popular opinion, not all men do. To read about the devastating consequences of porn, check this out, and this, too.
But really, how demeaning. Women hate to be classified and boxed in. Yet here Lawrence boxes in all men, proclaiming that they are definitely going to be looking at some naked woman.
Of course, if we were talking about a marriage relationship here, a husband and a wife have every right to look at each other naked. And they should. But we’re not talking about a marriage here; we’re talking about the supposed need for men to always have some naked woman to look at and the supposed duty for women to provide that to them.
By insinuating that women ought to “pay up” and provide naked photos of themselves to whatever man they’re in a relationship with at the moment, Lawrence objectifies women. She degrades them as little more than sex objects, designed to satisfy the appetites of men.
I can’t even express how wrong this is. No, young woman, it is not your duty to take and share naked photos of yourself with your boyfriend. If you believe he’s either going to look at you or find other naked women, find a different man.
You deserve better.
There are men out there who actually respect women and their bodies. They would never expect their woman to text naked photos of herself. Objectifying – and all too often humiliating – yourself in this way is not what a good, respectful man expects.
If you’re with a man like this, dump him. Wait for someone better. Wait for a real man.
Real men can wait for marriage. Real men want you to respect your body. Real men don’t demand everything you have before they’ve even committed to you.
Unfortunately, it’s these kind of objectifying attitudes that wage a real War on Women in our nation. When women feel like objects and things that men can own, it sadly follows that they view their own children as objects and things that they can freely discard.
It’s a tragic cycle. Women are viewed as property. They are soon cast to the side. Children are viewed as property. They are thrown in the trash.
Honestly, I like Jennifer Lawrence. I like that she eats food. I like that she’s clumsy. I like that she stumbles over her words. (And of course, I love Katniss Everdeen.) But it’s my hope that young women who look up to her can reject this terrible statement that she made.
Eat hamburgers like Jennifer Lawrence.
Laugh at yourself like Jennifer Lawrence.
But do not believe that you owe naked photos of yourself to a man like Jennifer Lawrence.
Be a respectable and respectful woman, and demand that any man you are with conducts himself in an equally respectful way. And whatever you do, don’t contribute to this horrible cycle of objectifying human beings.
Every young woman today should heed the advice in this article.
I need Jen...
She seems pretty brilliant to me.
Of course I have a short attention span. So, I could feel very differently in a week or so...
lolz
I think there are probably a fair number of men who don't view porn. But the peer-pressure to enjoy porn is very real, and some men are probably ashamed to say they don't view it.
It's also difficult to explain to a lot of people WHY porn is bad. In the past people have offered porn -- sent links or whatever -- and it's easier to simply say "not interested, thanks" than to explain the evil of it. On one occasion I outlined biblical condemnations of pornography, and the guy I was talking to (a self-proclaimed "Christian") thought I was trying to be funny. When he finally realized I that wasn't, he said "Jesus knows I'm only human, He has forgiven me for watching porn."
Petersen's Hunting found this via a Rolling Stone interview:
Pass the squirrel guts on PETA bread, please. The Hunger Games‘ mega-hottie and Oscar nominee Jennifer Lawrence is apparently as cool in real life as she is playing Katniss, a bow hunting super bad-ass survivor girl in the blockbuster movie.
The 21-year-old beauty gutted a squirrel in the most talked about scene for her role in 2010’s Winter’s Bone, (for which she was nominated). The scene was not faked, she told Rolling Stone magazine: “I should say it wasn’t real, for PETA,” she said. “But screw PETA.”
Prior to shooting Winter’s Bone, (a charming little movie RS describes as “a gritty, gothic, murder story set in Ozark meth country”), Lawrence spent a month in Missouri with a rural family shooting rifles and chopping wood in preparation for the role.
“I’ve seen porn, but never on purpose (like the time I accidentally searched “dicks.com” instead of “DicksSporingGoods.com”...*shudder*).”
There’s your problem, “Dicks sporting Goods” I could have saved you time....
http://www.gandermountain.com/
Dicks is okay but like Gander Mountain more better.
“Either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you”? And this is a “healthy” relationship?
Then why did she make porn for “boyfriend”. Can’t her look at her in the flesh? She has to make filthy pictures for him to gawk at when she’s not around? I’m not buying it. Anyone that takes a naked picture and puts it online is secretly wanting the world to see them in their birthday suit. What a bimbo.
I’m not a big Hunger Games fan but I really liked that movie, “Winter’s Bone”. Lawrence did an excellent job in that movie, IMHO.
The ultimately objective of pornography is the destruction of souls. The overwhelming majority of consumers don’t have to part with a dime to get it anymore.
I’m pretty sure she is the one who bought a shotgun with her first Hollywood paycheck. I’ve never seen her strip it, though.
Even a tasteful nude need not display anything that can't be seen on broadcast TV, but sometimes, showing less is far more provoking.
And no... I haven't seen the pics. They were not intended for me, and I don't read other people's mail.
Move on (after you skin the SOBs alive) and learn. Sometimes learning is painful or embarrassing.
From all accounts you are a pretty neat young lady. You have enough going for you that if he is worth your time, he'll see that and stay around. Just be you, and don't lose track of who you are in Hollywood and you'll be fine.
I bet her and Gwyneth Paltrow maybe ex (not divorced yet) Chris Martin have made a er... home movie and took some snapshots.
But millions of toddlers do, every day.
I think the article is WAY over thinking her comment. She had a boyfriend. She sent him pictures. Obviously he’d seen her naked in person, so showing him a photo long distance was not a big step. She’s also right that other people had no right to steal the pictures.
Wait for what? I had no idea men look at and talk to women because they're really interested in their intellect and thoughts.
When I was 13, in 1950, there wasn't any porn to see. Or even read about. There was nothing with a four-letter word in it printed, on the radfio, or the TV (if you had one). Spoken out of decent hearing, like in the Army or behind the barn, yeah, maybe. But not on the street. FWIW.
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