Virginity Pledges (Still) Don’t Work, Unless You’re Really Religious

NYMag ^ | Jesse Singal

[Morgana]

Virginity pledges, alongside abstinence-focused sex ed in general, are a favorite punching bag of those who favor comprehensive sex ed. In addition to being unrealistic, say their detractors, abstinence pledges promote an "all or nothing" approach to sex that may well lead to unhealthier behaviors. A new study in the Journal of Child and Family Studies bolsters these critiques by taking a nuanced look at how people with different levels of religious commitment react to purity pledges.

The researchers had 1,380 students at a "large, public Southeastern state univeristy" fill out a survey about their behavior. More than a quarter of them had signed pledges to not have sexual intercourse until they were married,which is about in line with national statistics among young people.

[Morgana]

I actually agree with this article. Which is why it's a good idea to teach your kids to be "very religious" from the time they are "very young".

Also try to avoid electing Presidents who say "Oral sex is not sex" if at all possible.

[Steve_Seattle]

But pretty much 100% of gays are practicing risky sex, yet THAT behavior is ENCOURAGED by society. Do I detect a double-standard here?

[fwdude]

I think “virginity pledges” just make you a target for the promiscuous a$$holes out there who want a challenge. Why announce it as some kind of badge of honor?

Just quietly live a godly life, and what is seen in secret will be rewarded openly in good time.

[NorthMountain]

Liberalism worships the unholy trinity of Abortion, Sodomy, and Socialism.

[a fool in paradise]

Academia, the medical profession, media, the DNC, Planned Parenthood, Girl Scouts USA, et al are TRYING to raise girls up to be sexually active and experimental.

It isn’t just the “peer pressure” to “give it up”, it’s the “establishment”.

[GraceG]

I believe in Sex Ed that is similar to the old school “Drivers Ed” where people are show pictures from high speed car crashes, only in this case it is pictures of people damaged by STDs...

[lurk]

A pledge by itself is just a piece of paper. It takes an involved father to protect a child, and prayer.

[knittnmom]

That’s how we teach it when we go on mission trips. Pictures of the results.

[GraceG]

[ But pretty much 100% of gays are practicing risky sex, yet THAT behavior is ENCOURAGED by society. Do I detect a double-standard here? ]

Imagine a bucket of acid...

Now imagine someone saying that as long as you put on a flimsy latex glove you can sit there all day and stir the bucket of acid with a your hand....

Now imagine someone saying it is cool and trendy to stir the bucket of acid with your hand as long as you have on this paper thin latex glove....

People are going to get BURNED!!!!

No one is saying the best way to avoid getting burned is to NOT PUT YOUR DAMNED HAND INTO THE BUCKET OF ACID IN THE FIRST DAMNED PLACE!!!!

[Morgana]

“I think “virginity pledges” just make you a target for the promiscuous a$$holes out there who want a challenge. Why announce it as some kind of badge of honor?”

I never considered that but you may be correct.

[Buckeye McFrog]

The leader of some major Evangelical abstinence group has a teenage daughter who became pregnant. The DUmmies are chortling with glee over that.

Even with best intentions you can’t control every decision your teenage kids make every second of every day.

[struggle]

I, for one, will not succumb to ‘queer pressure’.

[Mr Rogers]

Am I the only one who remembers when abstinence was ASSUMED?

[BwanaNdege]

It takes an involved father to protect a child, and prayer.

Amen!

This doesn't hurt, either

Trunk Monkey Date Night Chaperone

[left that other site]

Interestingly enough, this article is obliquely stating that only the “Very Religious” are capable of being trustworthy and keeping a promise or a pledge.

That’s a real slap in the face to people who are NOT “very religious”. hahaha

[BwanaNdege]

http://www.kidsgrowth.com/resources/articledetail.cfm?id=2082

Ten Simple Rules for Dating my Daughter

by W Bruce Cameron

Rule One :

If you pull into my driveway and honk you’d better be delivering a package, because you’re sure not picking anything up.

Rule Two :

You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter’s body, I will remove them.

Rule Three :

I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys your age to wear their trousers so loose that they appear to be falling off. Please don’t take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose this compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during your date with my daughter, I will use my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely to your waist.

Rule Four :

I’m sure you’ve been told that in today’s world, sex without utilizing a “barrier method” of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.

Rule Five :

In order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is “early.”

Rule Six :

I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.

Rule Seven :

As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don’t you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?

Rule Eight :

The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough for my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which features chain saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.

Rule Nine :

Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.

Rule Ten :

Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy outside of Hanoi. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit your car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car—there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face watching you from the window is mine.

[DoodleDawg]

Virginity Pledges (Still) Don’t Work, Unless You’re Really Religious

Or very serious about it.

[E. Pluribus Unum]

People are meant to get married young. Expecting them to wait until they are thirty when they have their education and career established is a relatively new phenomenon, and a recipe for promiscuity and all manner of perversions.

The best marriages I know of are people who got married young, many times because they "had to get married."

[Dr. Thorne]

Without God, the very concept of morality is meaningless. Who is to say what is right and what is wrong? Does the wolf feel he has done something wrong when he kills the sheep? Without God setting the moral boundaries of life, morality becomes a political football in the hands of the powerful. They toss it around for their own benefit.

Humanism is a joke. Consensus is a pathetic, fraudulent method for creating an entirely flimsy and shifting set of laws based on avarice.

[truth_seeker]

“The best marriages I know of are people who got married young, many times because they “had to get married.””

My wife an I married over 46 years ago, ages 17 and 19 respectively, because we “had to.”

Passion trumps preaching, when hormones rage and people care for each other.

My guess is that young people today don’t marry, partly because there is no stigma.