And for the record it wasn’t a couple shower.
A few of us men had lunch in the back (me and her fam) and then I was brought up to help with presents and what not.
I’d ask if you preferred that or the wings n beer with the men.
But you’re probably wise enough not to wade into this.
As far as I’m concerned, unless it is a lingerie shower or a hardware and tools shower, there is no reason for a man to be there.