i’m prepared to take my lumps over the wedding. But this is a dispute between warring bridesmaids, some of them family and some of them friends, some of them local and some of them out of state. THEY are planning the shower and it was presumptuousness and high-handedness in the original email, which rather than asking for input, just stated what was going to happen and who had to pay up, that started the cascade of bad feeling. i would be totally in the dark about it, except my younger daughter is the maid of honor, and therefore on the email chain. The mother of the bride is supposed to just show up and be gracious at this affair. I will do that, but i have been privy to too much of the behind the scenes drama for my liking!
I had several bridal showers, but one of my most memorable was given by some of my college friends. It was a “No-host” affair in a restaurant and was a surprise to me. The guests kicked in for my meal, but everybody just ordered what they wanted off the menu and paid with separate checks. They all brought presents, and I remember it 55 years later with happy feelings. No hassle to anybody. It was a fun evening; and it was the last time I sawsome of those women, since I moved halfway across the country after the wedding.
Isn’t it the MOH’s responsibility?
You are using wise tactics there-in the run-up to the cub’s wedding, I studiously ignored all arguments between bridesmaids, shower-givers and the rest, and just attended to keeping bridezilla on a short leash, and doing the stuff I’d agreed to be responsible for-worked out much better that way...