But will she let him finish his bacon first?
Posted on 01/17/2013 4:29:08 PM PST by nickcarraway
'You have got to fix yourself up - look pretty, look alert:' Christian conservative T.V. host Pat Robertson blames 'awful-looking' women for failed marriages
If your husband isn't paying attention to you, it's probably because you don't look 'pretty' and 'alert,' according to evangelical talk show host Pat Robertson.
At least that's what Robertson told his viewers recently, using an anecdote from a fellow preacher to illustrate his point.
'A woman came to a preacher I know — it’s so funny,' said Robertson, host of the 700 Club. 'She was awful-looking. Her hair was all torn up, she was overweight and looked terrible, clothes bad and everything, and she said, "Oh Reverend, what can I do? My husband has started to drink."
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Well, he was right. I did twice in seven years of marriage. I hated it both times but wound up with two great kids.
Time to retire, Pat. Unconditional love is supposed to be unconditional, no? I'm not saying don't take care of yourself, but if my Priest said “get a new hair cut and wear make up when you go camping or you're running out to the grocery store while dropping one kid off at one school, another off at another school while trying to make it home on time to do some laundry before getting on the computer to send out invoices/reports for the family business” and this will solve all your marital woes— I don't think so!
For the record, my Priest would never say anything like that, and I don't have any major marital problems, take care of myself, dress up nicely when appropriate, usually take a lot of time with my hair and make-up if there is time taking care of kids and working, but marital problems are more then skin deep.
Well, he was right. I did twice in seven years of marriage. I hated it both times but wound up with two great kids.
Dog track time
But will she let him finish his bacon first?
“I guess women have to look beautiful all of the time, even when they are scrubbing the toilets but men can look like huge, beer gut jaba the huts and its all good
Yes. Works for me :-)
That last part of your sentence needs to be repeated and then some.
The tired joke is that women get fat and let themselves go after marriage.
Look around. Men get fat, get a gut, don't pay attention to hygiene, etc. No one I know would care to get naked and have sex with that.
It goes both ways, gentlemen.
The next day, a male co-worker tells her “My wife and I get in arguments over the same thing! She just doesn’t get it.”
“Oh I know! And then my husband will say blah blah blah.... he just doesn’t understand....”
Well said. Also, old Pat may not know about the internet which can facilitate a really big threat to the marital union, namely PORN!
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Ha ha ha! As a female, I really think the eyeshadow would have done the trick!!! /s
"I have had it with this school, Skinner! The low test scores, class after class of ugly, ugly children!"
I noticed the wife of a couple we knew started looking like that and the first thing I thought was 'she was walking on the cheating side of town'. 2 months later they were separated.
Like a certain peanut farmer from Georgia.
LOL. I had the same thought. **Hope this posts.**
Many women simply need to rediscover the waist, IMHO.
Bill Clinton? He traded in what for what what whaaaaaaaaaaaat? I don’t think even Laz would touch Monica.
Well maybe he would with a HazMat suit.
When I hit my early 40’s after my mother and my father died within a year and a half apart from each other, my father having been a diabetic, I decided it was time to start taking much better care of myself. I had always tried to dress nicely and neatly and at least somewhat fashionably as a “fat” woman could, and that I could reasonably afford on a tight budget; even at home, even on the weekends, always had a nice hair do, wore make up (not spackeled on but enough to “enhance”), but I had gained a lot of weight over the course of nearly 20 years of marriage. So in my early 40’s I quit smoking (my husband quit soon after) and I started eating a healthier diet, took up golf; something my husband encouraged me to do so we could play together, and I started working out several times a week.
After my weight loss of 70+ lbs, I was thrilled to fit into clothes and wear clothes that I had hadn’t been able to wear for a long time – skirts, dresses, shorts and non-frumpy swimsuits during the summer – not “slutty” or age inappropriate clothes mind you, but fashionable clothes that showed off my new svelte figure. I wasn’t obsessive about it, didn’t spend a boat load of money on new clothes and shoes, etc. but was able to upgrade my wardrobe, nor did I change as a person; I still enjoyed cooking and baking, keeping a nice home and getting all dirty and sweating doing yard work and tending the garden, painting the house, helping my husband with home improvement projects, playing golf…things we enjoyed doing together.
But I lost a lot of weight and felt and I think looked and certainly felt better, both physically and mentally than I did when I was in my early 20’s and first met my husband and from what a lot of people told me; friends, family and strangers - both men and women, didn’t look like I was a forty something but much younger. While not my primary motivation, my health being and wellbeing primary, I also thought perhaps it might “spice up” my rather loveless marriage. And when I say “loveless” I mean pretty much sexless – his choice BTW, not mine (I used to think my husband was not physically attracted to me because I had gained weight and that I was solely to blame for his disinterest).
I was neither unaware nor oblivious that after my transformation, that some men started taking notice of me, some even hitting on me. Not the guys at work however; to them, I was still one of the “guys”, one of the fellow number crunching geeks and the guys working in my department were either 20 somethings or older and happily married guys. None of the guys I worked with ever hit on me or acted in any way inappropriately - not that it would have mattered if they did because I was married and very committed to my marriage no matter how imperfect it was. The guys I worked with appreciated me as a hard working co-worker and that didn’t change when I lost weight.
And FWIW, I never did anything or said anything or acted in any way that should have given my husband any reason to be concerned that I was cheating on him. But the better I looked and felt, the more distant my husband became. I tried to “spice up” our marriage, thought that he might find my new slim and fit body more “attractive”, but while he “said” he was proud of me and often told me I looked good, in the bedroom, it was business as usual as in no “business” at all but lots of snoring on his part.
So what happened? On my 43rd birthday, after all my weight loss, looking, feeling and dressing better than I had ever in our 20 years of marriage, I found out my husband was cheating on me. He didn’t cheat when I was “fat”, but when I lost weight and looked and felt better than I ever had, he started. Go figure. I think this said a lot about his own insecurities than it did about my appearance before or after my weight loss.
After doing everything I could to make our marriage work, even forgiving him for his infidelity, but then finding out he was still cheating on me, we divorced. And it was for the best. Investing any amount of energy in trying to “please” my husband, who didn’t appreciate it or me, was not worth the effort, but leaning to love and value and take care of myself….priceless.
BTW, my ex remarried last year, and she his fat and frumpy. LOL!
Leni
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