Posted on 12/26/2012 2:06:21 PM PST by Morgana
Nicole Hawkins‘ three daughters have matching glittery boots, but none has the same father. Each has uniquely colored ties in her hair, but none has a dad present in her life.
As another single mother on Sumner Road decked her row-house stoop with Christmas lights and a plastic Santa, Ms. Hawkins recalled that her middle child’s father has never spent a holiday or birthday with her. In her neighborhood in Southeast Washington, 1 in 10 children live with both parents, and 84 percent live with only their mother.
In every state, the portion of families where children have two parents, rather than one, has dropped significantly over the past decade. Even as the country added 160,000 families with children, the number of two-parent households decreased by 1.2 million. Fifteen million U.S. children, or 1 in 3, live without a father, and nearly 5 million live without a mother. In 1960, just 11 percent of American children lived in homes without fathers.
America is awash in poverty, crime, drugs and other problems, but more than perhaps anything else, it all comes down to this, said Vincent DiCaro, vice president of the National Fatherhood Initiative: Deal with absent fathers, and the rest follows.
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It will take a while for that saturation point to be reached, perhaps a generation. For now, many men see women as rental cars.
Actually, we should be ending the welfare incentives to have children. Those women will have as many children as they can as long as there is money to pay for them. When they reach the limit (4 kids in NYS IIRC) they stop having the babies.
Funny about that.
So if there was no more money handed out for each additional child, then they'd quit having babies sooner and only have families of 1 or 2.
But give them more money for each child and they'll take it right to the limit.
There was a typical broken welfare family that lived next door to us for a while and the poor little girl, about 7 years old, couldn't even tell me who she was related to.
She didn't know who all her brothers and sisters were, or if the kids who she was sharing the house with at the moment were even her brothers or sisters at all.
That infuriated me when I heard that.
You are quite right of course, that no girl gets pregnant alone. And probably more often than not, it's the guy putting pressure on her.
It is hypocritical of those *Christian* universities to penalize the girls when BOTH the guy and the girl engaged in the same immoral behavior.
It's not wrong only for the girl because she's the one who got pregnant. Who gets pregnant does not determine the morality of the parties.
Now, I'm quite a bit older now but even in my day, girls would rather not have put out. Most did because of pressure from the guys.
Maybe that's changed some. Or maybe a lot, but still, if the guys didn't push for sex, I'm sure the pregnancy rates would drop.
There are a lot of factors in a girl deciding to have sex, but certainly pressure from the boyfriend is a major one.
I think I’m starting to appreciate my uncomplicated life.
If you’re single/no offspring Hate and Blame can keep right on walking.
the pill and the playboy philosophy....THAT is entirely the production of males.....
all men have to do is put a simple little plastic over their things and they can have sex with thousands of women without making anyone pregnant....why don't they?....
one night we had a woman come in to talk about how much our group had helped her...she wore new fancy Nike sneakers and told us all three of her babies were of different fathers, from a group that was not her race....
I thought from then on that all we were doing is enabling this stuff.....once is a mistake...twice maybe...but three times?
I use my regular bank card, debit/credit, and I shop at Walmart and Food Lion regularly. Maybe the cashiers don’t ask me about EBT because of my ethnicity and my wedding ring. I was wearing my gloves last week, and I had six small children with me.
I agree. And I also wish both men and women had a different attitude about children. Plenty of commenters have no issues with promiscuity ... it goes without saying that unmarried men and women are having sex. It's only when a woman is pregnant or has children that she becomes a "slut," a "fat cow," and so on.
When you are teaching your teen age daughter to abstain are you also teaching your son?
Absolutely. I didn't see an exemption for males in the Ten Commandments. Did you?
It will take a while for that saturation point to be reached, perhaps a generation.
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You are probably right. But I weep for my grandchildren.
Mine is a cherished and well-protected daughter of an intact marriage between two high-earning professional people who, unfortunately, live at a great distance from all their other relatives, as is often the case with educated high-achievers who select universities from around the world and marry someone they meet far from home. Their family also does not attend church, to my sorrow.
But such a treasured child not knowing what a relative is also speaks volumes about the culture, since schoolteachers cannot even describe a traditional mommy-daddy family in the classrooms without fear of lawsuits from GLBT's on behalf of their little turkey-baster creations. Because "gayby" children cannot be the blood relative of both their homosexual parents, acknowledgment of all blood relationships must! be! suppressed!
No, but a tractor beam between her legs doesn't drag it in, either. And as the topic of this thread is fathers being eliminated from the family, pointing out that women aren't forced to have unprotected sex is beside the point.
what guy seriously wants to know there’s been a number of guys in their wife before them?
When it comes to one night stands, many, maybe even most, guys don't care. All they care about is "scoring". I would think a woman having children from multiple fathers would be a sign that she is not a safe bet, but I've seen enough to know most men don't think it through that far.
and i’d say the same thing for women. they USED to care, now they sure don’t. they were the controlling factor and they’ve decided not to be anymore...
Oh, they're still in control. They, or many, are just using that control differently. And with our elected law makers unwilling to alienate the female vote, it should be obvious that men can't count on the government to protect them from "forced fatherhood" or whatever the term is now. Holding mothers responsible by allowing men to opt out? Depriving welfare mothers of their perks? Not going to happen. It's up to men to control themselves.
Funny how that works isn’t it? Fatherlessness has been devastating on kids (I work in the schools and THE most troubled students are the ones without the guidance of a father). Many single mothers are at their wits-end by the time the kid is a teenager and are asking us what to do with their out-of-control children.
My husband and I have been married over two decades and have two kids - my daughter (college age) tells me that we are the ONLY intact family among all of her friends.
WE are the anomaly, not the norm!!
Very true, my daughter teaches 3rd grade in a public school in a fairly upscale suburb of Indianapolis. She told me in the third grade as a whole, only 42% of students are in a household with both birth parents who are married to each other.
For inner city schools in Indianapolis the number is under 20%.
I know there is a big negativity toward the public schools on FR, much of it warranted, but you can't expect schools to fix a fundamental problem of society.
GREAT article. SUPERB comments here. Thanks very much.
Placemark.
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