Posted on 08/30/2012 6:16:12 PM PDT by MrPiper
If you think a marriage counseler can help your marriage, you believe in Santa Claus ! They are as full of stuffing as a christmas turkey!
Guys, you are a fool to ever marry!!!!
I’m sorry about your situation. When I was a young pup, marriages seemed to last. My parents were married 46 years till Dad passed away. They had their ups and downs. Dad was drunk the first few years, but then he straightened out. And Mom was obsessed with cleanliness which drove Dad crazy. But they always worked things out. They took their vows seriously. And when it came to parenting, they were a united front.
Today, marriage is as disposable as razor blades. No one works together to solve problems. Faithfulness is considered optional. Children are used as weapons. I think a lot has to do with the absence of God. He has been forgotten in nearly every aspect of our lives, including marriage.
Women are to blame for sure, but then again, so are men. We have all lost our way. The question is, will we find our way back?
I’m still on with my first wife and hope it will always be so, but I’ve learned from the experiences of friends that the most dangerous thing you can bring into a divorce court is a penis.
Here is something very crass, adults only, from England expressing the sentiment, somewhat.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Qop8hdPAEQ
“Women don’t like sex, they make you think they like it to keep the paychecks coming....”
I think you might want to be discreet. TMI on something that is by no means a universal truth.
Concur. Paid through the nose to get rid of my first husband. (He dumped me, tried to get me, the kids, and the dog tossed out on the street—I ended up borrowing $15K to complete the divorce he decided that he didn’t want after all.) Now happily married for 22 years, but would not take the risk again for anything in the world if, God forbid, something happens to my precious soulmate.
Whiskey Tango Halifax do men think they are the only ones who suffer financially post divorce?
Back in the early 90's, there was a time when I thought, if I didn't have anyone in my life by the time I was 50, I didn't want to live. Yeah, pathetic, I know. I look back at that now and wonder, what the hell was I thinking? It took a while after my divorce, but I finally realized that I didn't need anyone to make me feel good, or make me happy. I was the only one who could do that. And that's the way I've lived my life since then. I like my life as it is...uncomplicated. No headaches and no heartaches.
I hope you can find some peace for yourself. Good luck.
Amen.
Happy for ya, I’m to old to start again, death is my future....looking forward to it..
See, that's why men aren't as smart as us females. It only took me one time to learn that.
LOL...only kidding, I am happily married...I just never get a chance to post this graphic!
I sat down for this meeting second, after the little Misses had her say first. Me being the gentleman as always. And when it was my turn the wise and wonderful marriage counselor said to me; "She's pretty much fed up with these problems from you, now how are you going to modify your behavior."
For some odd reason, I can't remember much of anything that was said during all the counseling that followed. I was completely stunned that this was being portrayed as a problem I had to overcome.
That marriage didn't last long, by my 25th birthday I was divorced and kind of devastated by it. But I guess the bottom line is lotto, bingo, craps, or marriage counselor, they'll all take your money, but only the counselor is a thief.
There are honest professions like lotto, bingo and craps, and a few others. Me? I pretty much stay on the other side of the street from professional counselors of any stripe.
Compare and contrast the numbers of males and females in jail for child support arrears. The deck is stacked against men in divorce.
None of my exes suffered financially because of the divorce. Neither did my children.
Small sample, but it is my experience.
/johnny
I beg to differ. I respect my husband. He is a great blessing to the world and to me. He helped to keep our country safe. I’m pretty lucky in that my life is full of *real* heroes. The best part of the whole deal is that my heroes are kind and considerate to me. I hope and pray that y’all either find satisfying relationships or that you recognize the value and joy of a happy life, solitary or not.
/johnny
I claim testosterone poisoning. It messes with the mind. ;)
/johnny
I don’t know what’s going on with you, but I feel very bad for you. I wish I could say something that would help, but I know I can’t. All I can say is that my husband of 36 years (ok, I’m fudging, it won’t be 36 years until Monday) would strongly disagree with what you just said.
I cannot, however comment on marriage counselors. Never been to one.
I hope things get better for you.
your husband is a lucky man.
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