I don’t know what’s going on with you, but I feel very bad for you. I wish I could say something that would help, but I know I can’t. All I can say is that my husband of 36 years (ok, I’m fudging, it won’t be 36 years until Monday) would strongly disagree with what you just said.
I cannot, however comment on marriage counselors. Never been to one.
I hope things get better for you.