Posted on 08/07/2012 9:29:23 PM PDT by mlizzy
It is probably one of the hardest things a gay man will ever have to do and one has decided to share his heartbreaking experience with the world.
'James', 33, from Pennsylvania, uploaded a letter sent to him by his father five years ago on internet messaging board Reddit, shortly after he worked up the courage to come out to him.
James reveals he called his father to tell him the news in August 2007: 'I finally built up the courage to tell my father I was gay.
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
Oh, yeah, Dan Cathy made him do it..
Maybe he should have just told his father that he was a homosexual and let it go at that. “Gay” conjures up a lot of wacky and spooky images in a person’s mind.
Yes, I can certainly understand why the Dad would be heartbroken. I do not agree, however, that a total abandonment or disownment is the way to go.
It took a log of courage for his father to write that letter.
how gay
A little off topic, but have you ever been on reddit? Those loons make newsvine seem centrist..
Yes, I can certainly understand why the Dad would be heartbroken. I do not agree, however, that a total abandonment or disownment is the way to go.True. Therapists always advise that a door be left open, even if only slightly.
A little off topic, but have you ever been on reddit? Those loons make newsvine seem centrist..ROFL... it's bad indeed. :)
It took a log of courage for his father to write that letter.I agree, and he's probably none to happy to see it on the Internet, especially if the last name given is factual.
Sex is something a person has, it is not who they are. This entire problem with sexuality as identity should be understood as a mental illness.
/johnny
Too bad there are not more strong fathers such as this brave man who would put his principles before his Sodomite Son.
I’d have to disown my kids of they came out liberal or Muslim.
You can still love another person without abandoning them.
I disagree. I have three daughters and there is NOTHING they can do that would cause me to disown them. I love them unconditionally.
I refuse to judge someone else’s family.
It is the dad’s choice to do this. Frankly, it is understandable, especially if the dad is a Christian.
My own father did this to me when I was an early teen, simply because I was the only one to stand up to his crud (abuse). He recently died, leaving the estate to his live-in floozy girlfriend (who wound up being investigated for his death) while leaving nothing to the rest of us.
I have only been at peace with the result since he died. My wife, sisters, and my divorced mother are happier than ever, too.
If it’s your money, you should be able to squander or invest it however you desire.
"James" has a need to pit the whole world against his father with this one-sided tale of woe.
Therefore, I don't trust this "James". He comes off as a manipulative, deceptive drama queen.
He doesn't speak to us much but I did help fly him to my mother's funeral and pay for his lodging and meals so surely he realizes I am not cutting him off however I think many gays become hypersensitive to slights and interpret even minor conflicts or silence as "hate" when it isn't so. It's as if they can't wait to find any confirmation of "hate" from straights as somehow justification for their own nastiness and persecution complex.
My advice to anyone who is convinced by faith that homosexuality is wrong and yet must deal with a family member who comes out is to a) stand firm in what Scripture says but b) understand that we are all sinners and do your best to accept the fallen without embracing their lifestyle.
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