Perhaps she want to know what Men (as opposed to boy-buggering faggots) find attractive.
My husband is supposed to tell me if what I’m wearing is wrong-side-out, backwards, stained, or not mine. (”Isn’t that Bill’s shirt?” “Oh, that’s why it doesn’t fit!”) I haven’t had much sleep the last couple of decades, so somebody has to stop me walking out the door in Sally’s pants wrongside out and backwards, plus one black shoe and one brown shoe!
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I see your point, and as a non-feminist, I believe that’s natural and healthy. But if I want to know what my husband finds attractive, I’ll usually try something on and model it for him. His eye will go to how a high heel shapes my leg or how a dress flatters my figure. Asking him if this bag goes with these shoes, well....that just doesn’t fall into the same category, IMO.