LOL
I see your point, and as a non-feminist, I believe that’s natural and healthy. But if I want to know what my husband finds attractive, I’ll usually try something on and model it for him. His eye will go to how a high heel shapes my leg or how a dress flatters my figure. Asking him if this bag goes with these shoes, well....that just doesn’t fall into the same category, IMO.
I agree - my husband will tell me that a new outfit “looks good,” but he wouldn’t notice if I was wearing shoes or earrings that didn’t go with the dress. I rely on my girlfriends, or occasionally my daughters, to appreciate correct accessorizing.