Taking a break from FR

[se_ohio_young_conservative]

As many of you know I have had a difficult last year+. I lost my mom to lung cancer and I have been dealing with deal issues of my own. I made the mistake of thinking that I could share personal struggles with people I thought were friends online and now I know it turns out I couldnt. That really eats at me. What did I do wrong ?

Also. Having "friends" online who have not reached out to me and in some cases have not responded when I have tried to reach out to them.

I know most of the people here on FR are wonderful people and I thank you for the prayers and kind words. I have tried to avoid isolation and I thought there for awhile I was doing better. But now I am to the point where I just can't tolerate dealing with people in general, too frustrated..too nervous..too insecure. So on the negative side my circle is getting much smaller, on the positive side I will not have risk getting ridiculed or embarrassed for talking about things that I struggle with..

I am also to the point where I can't focus on the election right now like I did past elections. so I am just taking a break...

[Mountain Mary]

Hope you feel better soon, soyc.

Might want to try listening to Roy Masters...it’s helped me alot and i don’t usually hang my hat on spiritual talk show hosts. But he speaks to the problem of facing our fears and healing..has given me some helpful tips.

Good luck and Godspeed. I’ve left FR at times and I’ve always returned if for no other reason to get daily news.

[Steve Newton]

God bless

[chris_bdba]

Yes many of us have been doing the same thing.I have not been around because on the first of May I had a major health event in my life.I had a minor heart attack and 2 heart caths and 4 stents later they tell me I am Lucky that I am alive.Quite a shock for only being 51.Now my energy is mostly focuses on my recovery and getting back to where I was before.

[RedMDer]

Prayers up.

[airborne]

It sounds like a good idea to take some time off and concentrate on your health and well being. And getting away from all of the craziness that is going on right now in the political arena is a smart move!

In the age of Facebook, too many people mistake a “friend” for an “acquaintance”. And quite honestly, some on FreeRepublic have gotten pretty rude and belligerent as of late. I've found myself visiting less and less lately.

A small number of friends is much better than a large number of acquaintances - so choose your few friends wisely.

I pray that things will get better for you. Good luck and God bless!!

[Nifster]

Sorry for you loss and recent burdens. Isolating is a sign of depression, which is normal all things considered in your case. I beg you to try and stay connected because in the long run it will help.

Hoping you will regain the sunlight of the Spirit soon.

[Doogle]

We all need to regroup once in a while....many use the internet as a release from unattended troubles, your not alone. Internet "friends" are no different from the neighborhood dog with the wagging tail BEHIND the fence. Seek help where you can shake a hand attached to an open heart and a willing ear.

[lysie]

God bless you and your family.

[rabidralph]

Yes, face time is what creates friendships and fellowship.

[El Cid]

May God Bless you.
Proverbs 18:10 The name of the Lord is a strong tower: the righteous runneth into it, and is safe.

May you rest in the Lord.

[smokingfrog]

What did I do wrong ?

Well, we won't get into that...

... but I am sorry for the loss of your mother and wish you the best as far as your health and well being is concerned.

You definitely should not isolate yourself. Hopefully, you have some close friends, family, or local church you can rely on when times get a little rough.

[BipolarBob]

Thanks humblegunner! You never fail to share your wit (at the most inappropriate time).

[miss marmelstein]

I pray you return to good health! I understand that you might not have the energy for politics but don’t abandon FR. Some of us really care. Don’t forget that.

[chris_bdba]

Oh I haven;t abandoned it at all but am trying very hard not to sit at the computer too much which is not conductive to recovering from a heart attack.I need to be up and moving not sitting and reading. ;)

[skeeter]

What you describe isn't unusual. Most people mean well, but generally try not to expect too much from them (meaning expect very little).

Between your mind & soul you already have everything you need anyway.

Good luck.

[Persevero]

While many on FR come across as decent, compassionate, even good FRiends, the fact is some are nasty and ugly. It’s not a place to go and reveal your vulnerabilities. Sadly, some seem to get a kick out of “winning” an argument through insult and snide remarks. You are not the first nor probably the last to be unkindly treated.

That said, there are good people here.

[mass55th]

In the same boat as you. Lost both parents and my sister last September. All to lung cancer. Lost my only brother when he was 51 to a massive heart attack. I’ve got my oldest sister left, and she’s in a nursing home. Thankfully I have two sons of my own, and relied on them to help when I ended up having three abdominal surgeries over the past two years. Life goes on, and my kids will survive when I’m no longer here.

[fortheDeclaration]

In the age of Facebook, too many people mistake a “friend” for an “acquaintance”. And quite honestly, some on FreeRepublic have gotten pretty rude and belligerent as of late.

Very true.

[marmar]

Ruth, that was my Mom's name and she was my rock. She passed away when I turned 19 and was left out in the world to take care of my self. No more family support. Needless t say I have had an amazing life. I am sorry for cruel people that have never walked in your shoes, that have judged you. I pray that God gives you peace and joy. If you need a sounding board just FRmail me. I can listen...Martha

[marmar]

Ruth, that was my Mom's name and she was my rock. She passed away when I turned 19 and was left out in the world to take care of my self. No more family support. Needless t say I have had an amazing life. I am sorry for cruel people that have never walked in your shoes, that have judged you. I pray that God gives you peace and joy. If you need a sounding board just FRmail me. I can listen...Martha