Posted on 05/21/2011 1:18:37 PM PDT by Slings and Arrows
We all know this guy — or are this guy: in his 30s, affable, attractive, and yet he’s never been in a serious long-term relationship. And as his single status stretches into a third decade, one has to wonder: What’s the deal? Far from being undateable, this guy may simply not be ready to change his independent ways. Or, he may be all too willing to do so — but something’s blocking him. If you feel you may fall into the latter category (or know someone who does), stop worrying about what’s slowing you down and read on to learn about how five types of die-hard bachelors contribute to their perpetually single status and what steps to take to break the cycle.
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Yes, we’re the ones wondering if there are any good single guys out there.
Nope.
I boil it down to a mutual admiration for each other, respect for what’s important to them (even it’s lame to you, it’s important to her)
How would you distinguish between a girl and a woman?
Please feel free to list contrasting traits and attributes, e.g
1. "A girl _____________, while (or but) a woman ________________."
2. "A girl _____________, while (or but) a woman ________________."
3. "A girl _____________, while (or but) a woman ________________."
etc.
Thanks in advance.
Then don't expect me to drop my identity and become your
Topsy Turvy upside down tomato planter.
Ya see?
(This thread is lacking humor.)
Excellent—I was wondering same thing.
You have a good point there.
I myself have had bad luck, being dropped as each boyfriend moved up in the world. This was in my teens to early twenties and I dated the hardworking type and was supportive to both. Got dumped both times. I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs or sleep around, but for some reason, women who do these very things, seem to get the decent ones.
LOL!
One more time...oh no you din’t. lol
You featured Miss Priss!
Lindsey Graham jokes are...low-hanging fruit. ;^)
Frankly, I was expecting them when I posted the thread.
Low hanging fruit? At best.
lololol!
Of course, this is for people who marry at the USUAL age. But if you think about it, if you’re 16, your match will be 15. At 40, your match will be 28. They say that women mature faster than guys, so for the younger ages, it seems to work out.
A girl thinks fun means going out to a bar or club and getting wasted, while a woman prefers a quieter evening.
A girl expects you to guess what she wants to do (movie/restaurant/activity) and then gets mad when you guess wrong, a woman has no problem telling you what she wants.
A girl thinks everything should be done her way, a woman is willing to compromise.
Think of the most extreme example of how a 2 year old behaves - obnoxious, self-centered, and without subtance - and then see how many people around you still hold those traits. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think only females are like this. Hell, there are probably just as many immature males as females, but I don’t date males.
*beaming*
I don’t know. In my 20’s I dated 30 something losers and even an early 40 something. At 33 I decided to set my sights in the opposite direction. I bagged a 29 year old buck. He’s been around for 20 years and still thinks I’m a brick house ;D! We have a beautiful family too.
These young women need to realize they can’t wait for these perpetual bachelors to change their narcissist behavior.
Psychologists report that more men than women in our population are narcissists.
That might seem to be the case, but follow it down the road a few years and you’ll see a lot of tragedy. Party people make rotten spouses.
When good people have a hard time finding a good spouse, often it is because they are in a place where the pool of potential spouses is pretty stagnant. This is something of an invisible social problem in the US, where there is a dearth of polite social gatherings for single adults.
Many good people would suggest that a church would be a good place to find a spouse, but that is a very small pool in most cases. About the only alternative for most is work and bar-hopping. These are almost cringe-worthy for their lack of potential.
The bottom line is that our society has evolved into an unwholesome social situation, and until something rattles off all the nonsense, even shaking us down to the bone socially and economically, only a relatively small number will have the chance to live the American dream.
That wouldn’t surprise me, but you have to take into account the fact that most psychologists are women. The last girl I dated would sometimes mention what a narcissist her ex was, never once stopping to consider all the same traits she was talking about were traits she also had. True sociopaths never fully understand their mental disease.
You are totally reasonable.
At 24 I was dating a hot 39 year old woman for a while.
Most women want to date somebody who is at least their age and at most 5 years older. This works out well when the woman is 20, and her pool of candidates thus includes lots of unmarried guys 20-25 who have demonstrated that they can hold a decent job and are likely to be good husbands.
By 30, the good guys 30 thru 35 are mostly taken, which means that guys 30-35 who didn't get much attention have a large pool of female candidates in the 25-35 age group.
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