[SeaHawkFan]

When my middle-aged divorced women friends ask me about middle-aged guys they are dating that have never been married, I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys.

None of those women ever married to one of those kind of guys.

[fr_freak]

When my middle-aged divorced women friends ask me about middle-aged guys they are dating that have never been married, I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys.

Interesting. When I have male friends who date or consider dating divorced women, I tell them not to waste their time on these women (except perhaps for a fling) because these women are divorced for a reason.

[library user]

I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys.

Yeah, and the reason is because the guys are not going to marry a woman just for the sake of marrying a woman and settling.

IMHO, it's better to date longer and get to know the person first.

For example, I would never ever propose to a woman unless and until we had a really, really bad fight.

That way I can see how long it takes to reconcile and how WE reconcile.

And that gives an idea as to how good the communication is in the relationship.

Getting married to someone before you have a big argument with them could result in a grave mistake.

In the event my to-be spouse holds a wicked grudge, I want to find that out BEFORE marriage.

[Nowhere Man]

When my middle-aged divorced women friends ask me about middle-aged guys they are dating that have never been married, I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys.

None of those women ever married to one of those kind of guys.

I don't really know the stats behind all these stories, but I wish they quit the demonizing and finger pointing that goes on. I have my own views, sex comes after marriage, but I realize there are people out there that will have sex before marriage and some that do not, all I ask is they are at or above the age of consent and they be responsible and accountable for their deeds.

We are all different and some people might be waiting because of things like their beliefs, economic status interests, if they have the time and so on.

I just don't like the finger pointing that goes on.

[Tolerance Sucks Rocks]

When my middle-aged divorced women friends ask me about middle-aged guys they are dating that have never been married, I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys.

...after all, none of THOSE guys should ever be allowed to enjoy the relationships that come so easily to others. It's like a law. They should instead be resigned to watch all the couples stroll by, hand-in-hand, with building resentment...

Of course, if it's because THOSE guys aren't really serious about a relationship, then maybe you're right...

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

When my middle-aged divorced women friends ask me about middle-aged guys they are dating that have never been married, I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys. None of those women ever married to one of those kind of guys.

And yet... I married a middle aged, never married, before guy. He has made a terrific husband.

Same for another friend of mine who married a middle aged, never before married guy. The quiet and shy ones tend to be overlooked. But when you take the time to cultivate them... oh baby!

[PapaBear3625]

When my middle-aged divorced women friends ask me about middle-aged guys they are dating that have never been married, I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys.

For a number of guys, they don't get married before 40 either because they have no problem attracting female companionship and prefer having a series of long-term relationships, or because they preferred working on building up their careers or business.

Then they get to be 40, and decide it's time to get married and have some kids while they still have the energy to deal with them.

Your 40 year old female friends don't have to worry about what to do with such, though, because this segment is looking for a 30 year old woman who is still able to easily have multiple children before her fertility runs out.

For 40 year old single women, it's a different story. For the most part unless they look like Michelle Pfeiffer or Cate Blanchett, they're either going to need to settle for what they can get, or be resigned to living without male companionship.