Posted on 06/28/2010 5:20:35 AM PDT by walsh
Women in their late 30s are freezing eggs because they are still hunting for "Mr Right", research suggests.
(Excerpt) Read more at news.bbc.co.uk ...
The “Mr. Right” they’re looking for was one of the guys they blew off over the years as being unworthy. Forget it nitwits. By the time you get to your late 30s most of the “good guys” are married and most of those left are the self-centered jerks who might look good on the outside but will treat you like crap. Looking for Mr. Right is like guys holding out for that star-model perfect woman; the older you get the more it becomes a pipe dream. Then again, hope springs eternal.
About a million years ago, when I was in public high school, I had a “social studies” teacher that was a real character. Colorful teacher, brought up a lot of then controversial topics, but in a respectful way to force his young charges like me... to “think for ourselves.”
One day, he had us whip out a piece of notebook paper and list the 25 qualities we absolutely would have to have in a future spouse. Started it in class, and had to finish it for homework.
Next day, he demonstrated how we were to hold that piece of paper up...........and promptly made us tear it to bits in order to earn our grade. LOL
He went on to explain that we would be lucky to find someone with 3 of those qualities, and focus on those. He was one of those “never let the perfect be the enemy of the good types.”
They don’t make too many public high school teachers like this, 30 years later.
That isn't necessarily true for guys. If a single guy becomes rich and successful even in older age he can easily net a far younger and more attractive woman. They stick to guys with money like flies to food.
Yeah, but porn doesn't do the laundry.
Be a real man, or be married to a real man if you're a woman. Live a life that isn't oriented around money, and live it happily, not full of envy. Get your daughter involved in vigorous outdoor activity, preferably with her family or a group of families. Avoid television or movies that promote homosexuality. Discourage her participation in cliques of girls: gossip is a sin, anyway.
Whether she thinks Brad Pitt is handsome is just a random factor, easily overcome if her upbringing emphasizes character rather than shallow external qualities. I think Benjamin Netanyahu is beautiful, myself.
Not even Mr $$$$$ any more.
Now it has to be Mr Perfect with shining armor, a white horse, $$$$$, Hollywood looks, and PC attitude.
Then when they reach 35, those requirements start to drop off until out of desperation, they will settle for anything available ... but by then, all the good, real men have already been taken and they become very bitter.
Aside from the fact that most of those “rich” guys they latch onto are as shallow and vain as they are; for the most part it never works out well in the long run for the guy. Most of the men I know who are like that are on girlfriend/wife number 3 or 4 and still shelling out money for past trophy wives. Those women usually stick to the guys with money about as long as it takes them to have a firm hook on the assets and then they usually take they guy’s money and begin the process of marrying up to the next level.
Yep. And if he matured a bit on the way, he realizes all the high-maintenance eye candy in the world isn't worth the price paid in pain and nonsense.
Better to have a good woman with virtuous traits who will stick it out with you on the way up, who has common goals and is willing to go the distance with you.
All the trimmings and wrappings on the outside are no substitute for inner beauty, which always shines through.
Any suggestions for me so my daughter doesn’t grow up thinking like this?
1) Turn of the TV!! MTV is not the Real World
2) Have her spend time with dad
3) remind her that Hollywood is just fantasy
4) Show before and after photos of pretty boys like Ryan O’Neal and remind her that some men don’t age as well as others.
5) Tell her men can’t coordinate clothes to save their lives. It’s part of their genetic makeup.
6) Men like man-caves to think things over.They are not ignoring you.
The three things that you can do to keep your daughter from growing up like this are:
Expose them to real men and real men’s jobs. Take her to the car mechanic or out to the woods or let her spend a day with her uncle who is an electrician / plumber / etc
Take her to Church, esp one that focuses on forgiveness and the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5:22)
Don’t let them watch TV - seriously.
Don't let her watch television. That's where all of this negative cultural programming comes from. Women who grew up in cultures with no access to American television are very different.
Speak for yourself. It is not hard to identify things that look good together. I haven't needed help dressing myself since grade school.
Don't mistake indifference for incompetence.
“Don’t mistake indifference for incompetence.”
Right on the nose...
What makes these ladies think they’re so great in the first place that they “deserve” Mr. Right.
I agree. I see plenty of nicely dressed men at church. How hard it is to pick out a dark suit, a light shirt, and a mid-hue tie, if you're willing to make the effort?
However, going by my observation of my husband and sons, I think it's possible that more males have diminished color perception than are aware of it.
No matter how hot she is, there is always some guy who is tired of her crap.
You are correct.
While not rich, my ex-husband was and is (even at his age, now 58) drop dead, movie star gorgeous.Blond haired, blue eyed Swedish. Those kind of good looks can be a curse, and often are, as these people are “popular” for all the wrong reasons. They can be socially stunted with a massive ego to match.
They might never learn to get along with others in a healthy way, compromise & work out problems, do their fair share of the work, behave in a supportive manner toward YOU, or even share any similar interests. You’re expected to simply feel privileged to be in the same room with such beauty.
When we attended my high school reunion some years back, my high school friends all prodded me: “Wow, how did you wind up with HIM?” They fawned over and flirted with him all night long. All I could think was “You want him? I can arrange it....CHEAP!” lol
Tell your daughter to focus on the big picture. An avoid someone who wants to be the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral.
I didn’t and haven’t shed one tear after I divorced him, even after 20 years. But I’m not heartless. I did, however, cry like a baby when my dog had to be put down.
No kidding. The old saying "Vanity...thy name is woman" should now substitute the word 'arrogance' for 'vanity'.
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