Grandmother: Boy terrorized adoptive family in US - Russia Furious U.S. Adopted Boy Given Back

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[MamaDearest]

I saw that movie too. I think they modeled it after one of my nieces (sort of kidding).

[Mamzelle]

There's also a strong vein of "mommy's so loving that she can fix anything" narcissism. I've come across a few of these, who take on damaged children not so much to help the child but to prove a point about herself and garner praise.

People who adopt from Russia come back with stories about having to bribe everybody, from the drivers to the bureaucrats. Disposable cell phones seem to be a favored "gift," and you're expected to have a boxload to hand out to everyone you see. And you trust these people to tell you the truth about a child?

[goat granny]

Now that is funny......:O)

[MacMattico]

Very true, a desire for boys and the one child policy, etc

[21twelve]

My cousin and her husband adopted a boy and his sister from a Russian Orphange. I suppose they were four and three years old at the time. Lots of problems but they have come a LONG way, they are 16 and 15 now.

I’ll never forget the little boy when asked by his momif he would like to take lessons on learning the Russian language. He said “I will never speak Russian again.” He was 6 or 7 at the time.

[dfwgator]

[madprof98]

"The intent of my daughter was to have a family and the intent of my whole family was to love that child," she said Friday.

No, the way you get "a family" is to get MARRIED and then to become a parent, either by biology or by adoption--not to be a single woman chasing halfway around the world to find a child who looks like he might be your own.

[JoeProBono]

[constitutiongirl]

I agree, totally. They new the risks going into adopting one of these kids and they should deal with the responsibility of anything that comes afterward.

[constitutiongirl]

I think your post is spot on.

[aruanan]

And the other possibility is that the Chinese children are healthier to begin with. Many Russian children are probably born with fetal alcohol syndrome or born addicted to drugs, whereas Chinese children are probably, for the most part, unwanted girls or “extra” children born to relatively healthy parents.

For some reason this made me wonder about a fetal alcohol syndrome baby versus an opium baby.

[toldyou]

Ditto...he has been with her only six months. I have seen photos of him. He just looks disturbed.

[altura]

You’re talking about normal kids who are bad because of bad parenting.

Believe me, one severely disturbed person of any age can drive 30 sane people crazy.

[toldyou]

“If she is not able (or willing) to find and keep a husband, who would be a sane adult....”

What makes you think a husband is a sane adult? ;)

[nina0113]

Steve and I chose not to pursue it, but the overseas adoption agency we worked with had only the most glowing words for Eastern European and Russian children. Possibly if we’d actually gone there and seen the orphanages, we’d have figured it out on our own, but they may well have Potemkin orphanages that they can pawn these wrecked children off from so that potential adopters don’t see the real conditions the children live in.

Single women have no business adopting older children - a kid that’s been bouncing around the system for any length of time is BROKEN, and you can’t fix a broken kid by parking him in school/daycare and heading off to your job. Those damaged children need full-time parenting, from two parents.