Posted on 10/09/2009 7:16:47 AM PDT by GL of Sector 2814
Laura S. Scott loves her husband. And that, she says, is enough to sustain a marriage.
They don't need children. "Two Is Enough" is the name of her book explaining a couple's guide to living childless by choice.
"I think I knew very early I didn't want to be a mom," Scott tells me. "I never imagined myself a mom, even as a small child. I never played with dolls. I was 15 when I told my mom, and she suggested things might change with my hormones. Nothing changed."
Scott is 47. She's too young to conceive (excuse the pun) the impact the FDA-approved birth control pill had on young women in the 1960s.
A friend of mine remembers. "Because of the pill, I could make a definite choice not to have children," says Mary, 70. "I have never regretted it. I was not designed to change diapers."
Her husband agreed with the decision but her mother couldn't accept it. She spread the word her daughter's husband was sterile.
Scott says, "People still have a hard time understanding our motives. They assume I may not be a real woman? Maybe I'm not in touch with my maternal self?"
My friend remembers hearing the same comments. She also remembers hearing how "you'll regret your choice when you are old."
Scott says people ask her what she will do when she's old. "Well, I'll create a social network with people to come to my aid," she says. "Is that really a reason to have a child? To breed a caregiver?"
And then there is the accusation she is "selfish."
"That is most annoying. Most unfair," Scott said.
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They need to justify their choice to everyone else, and most of all, themselves. I'll take a wild guess and say that this couple is a pair of incredibly narcissistic libs.
There's nothing wrong with having kids, or not having them. It's a personal choice, and it should stay that way.
Can you say "Allah Akbar". I knew ya could.
I’m 34 & my wife’s 28. She had a hysterectomy about 3 years ago due to endometriosis-type symptoms and other serious health problems, and it’s probably just as well since some of them are genetic. We’d like to have kids, and still may adopt if we ever get financially sound enough to do so & if her health is good enough to care for a child, but I don’t really see why anyone else (outside the family) would care what we do or why.
It sounds like your situation is *much* different.Health problems play a big role in your case.There's no evidence that that's true with these narcissistic clowns.
Which is exactly why I’m not writing a book about how awesome we are not to have kids.
Get with the twentieth century - we elect our caregivers nowadays. Instead of expecting our kids to help us out when we become old, we expect strangers we don't know and and have no responsibility toward to fill that role. Of course we'll never meet them, but our elected caregivers/nannies will tax their livelihood on our behalf.
Oh,I get it now,I misunderstood the tone of your earlier post.Sometimes I ain't too bright! ;-)
“I don’t have the slightest desire to have children, thus no paternal instincts. Does that make me a great terrorist?”
No, absolutely not!
I personally grew up around a ‘mother’ who should never have had children and it was a nightmare for everyone involved. Had pressure from society not been applied, she would have given up the child for adoption to a loving home and spared everyone from a life-long terrible tragedy.
The freedom to recognize that one isn’t cut out for the parenting gig is a healthy thing.
How many kids does Ann Coulter have?
She comes across about as maternally as Cruella de Ville. Would she make a good terrorist as well?
And for those of you a) suggest pictures every time her name is mentioned, please don’t, and b) who want to jump down my throat for mentioning a sacred cow less than positively, have at it.
Mostly because people like you start asking constantly about “when”! I can’t tell you how often I’d love to just tell pople to mind their own d@mn buisness. I am 49 and Dh and I knew long ago that we didn’t want any kids.
Fine.
Treat with contempt the struggle of all the generations before you to convey the precious gift of life to the next generation.
The fewer children liberals and leftists have, the fewer there will be to deal with in the future.
Now, if we can just get them to all subscribe to early VHE (voluntary human extinction, another ultraliberal cause), we won’t have to support them in their old age either.
How about a nice cup of Kool-Aid, dear?
“I don’t have the slightest desire to have children, thus no paternal instincts. Does that make me a great terrorist?”
No it makes you know yourself better than most people do.I have nothing against little kids and love them but never ever wanted any that I was responsible for.
You all should reread what you all have just said about a couple who chooses not to have kids then realize that why people like us have to constantly defend our choice. It’s very narrow minded to think that there is only one way in the world to live and it is your way!
“The freedom to recognize that one isn’t cut out for the parenting gig is a healthy thing.”
I agree. I also have NO maternal instincts... to start off with, I’m extremely bad at interacting properly with babies or small children, my family history indicates I’ll most likely have a problematic pregnancy or birth, and I have genetic health problems that WILL end with me. If I change my mind, I can adopt, cause there are too many sick kids in the world for me to want to make even more.
Christian civilization is already dead. Why should I bring a child into such an evil society? I can’t stand even the thought of bringing children into the world only to witness their corruption and/or death.
Screw that. I intend to find a woman who isn’t a self-centered fiend and then adopt some special needs kids whom nobody wants. There is no way in hell I’m adding more members to the outer ring of hell known as Obamania.
Pretty soon there won’t be any gene pools left. I don’t intend to have children just so that they can be turned into dead meat or drugged up moonbats.
First off, life is not a precious gift, it is a horrible curse.
Second, liberals don’t need to have many children. Evil people have been learning to dominate impressionable young minds for thousands of years. Now they are starting to get REALLY good at it.
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