Resigned: Lucy with David on their wedding day
Posted on 07/14/2009 10:48:56 AM PDT by Woebama
Every now and then I feel a pang of loss and longing that takes me completely by surprise. I might be sitting in a cafe talking to friends, or wandering around the supermarket.
Then I see a mother with her child and the realisation hits me, as if for the first time - that's never going to be me. If someone had told my 25-year-old self that I would end up here - aged 45, newly married and, sadly for us both, without a hope of ever getting pregnant - I wouldn't have believed them. It would have seemed incredible that love would take so long to find me; that becoming a mother would ever matter so much; or that my fertility - a gift that, at the time, seemed more like an inconvenience - would plummet far beyond the point at which doctors could work their magic. Yet, it is a fact my husband David and I have spent the past year learning to accept. I know it sounds naive but, when we met four years ago, it never crossed our minds that having a baby would be an impossibility.
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She could adopt a baby.
I agree. I got a nursing, master’s and law degree before children. Everyone kept telling me I had “plenty of time.”
Those were just pretty lies. Time does run out.
Thankfully, I was still able to adopt.
Now, I tell my own kids not to wait too long.
Start respecting life and you won't have that problem.
Maybe she should adopt. The main point, that I wanted to put out here, is that there is a mythology among women that they can have children late but that is far less likely than they are led to believe. I’ve just seen it happen too many times in my life, among my female friends, that they end up without a child that they wanted.
Well, she could if she wasn't so self absorbed that she can only love a child with her DNA.
Thanks for sharing keats5. We want more kids but my wife has some medical issues, so our 1 may be all we have. We hope not. We are considering foster parenting.
Ditto x100.
Maybe she shouldn’t have kids at all.
We adopted three- best decision of our lives.
Those who disdain child rearing are in that category...
Societies which honor, protect and nurture their children and provide stable structures for families survive.
Those that don't....don't.
It’s all about me.
And we are part of our society
and this is posted to be read by members of our society
: P
Well, she and her hubby are special, enlightened people... can't have an untermenschen "accessory" baby you know...
Looks like she got married in a Godfather movie.
This could definitely set to music. Reads like lyrics.
I think adopting is a wonderful idea. I would like to say that I found being
pregnant and having that baby to be the most joyous time of
my life. I absolutely adored it and I am sorry for women who do not
get to experience that feeling. I’m sure there are women who will tell you they
did not feel that way. However, my friends who have adopted
have been thrilled by their experience.
My wife and I wanted to finish our degrees and have some fun after college. I was in the military for 10 years which greatly extended the time it took to get my bachelors and my wife was in a doctorates program for pharmacists. We completed college in 2006. She will be 32 in August and I’ll be 33 in November. We realize that we are not getting any younger and have decided to start trying to conceive in September. We only want two and then we are done.
You are right. Wait and mate rhyme!
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