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Posted on 06/28/2009 9:48:05 AM PDT by Maelstorm
Sadly, and to my horror, I am divorcing. This was a 20-year partnership. My husband is a good man, though he did travel 20 weeks a year for work. I am a 47-year-old woman whose commitment to monogamy, at the very end, came unglued. This turn of events was a surprise. I don’t generally even enjoy men; I had an entirely manageable life and planned to go to my grave taking with me, as I do most nights to my bed, a glass of merlot and a good book. Cataclysmically changed, I disclosed everything. We cried, we bewailed the fate of our children.
And yet at the end of the day — literally during a five o’clock counseling appointment, as the golden late-afternoon sunlight spilled over the wall of Balinese masks — when given the final choice by our longtime family therapist, who stands in as our shaman, mother, or priest, I realized … no. Heart-shattering as this moment was — a gravestone sunk down on two decades of history — I would not be able to replace the romantic memory of my fellow transgressor with the more suitable image of my husband, which is what it would take in modern-therapy terms to knit our family’s domestic construct back together. In women’s-magazine parlance, I did not have the strength to “work on” falling in love again in my marriage. And as Laura Kipnis railed in “Against Love,” and as everyone knows, good relationships take work.
(Excerpt) Read more at msnbc.msn.com ...
hate it when a cheater feels the need to confess...
love it when the cheater gets caught and kicked to the curb...
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...and at roughly the same time this was being written, a beautiful young woman in Iran was murdered because she was protesting a regime that wants to keep her society in the dark ages. Do these broads have any clue how lucky they are?
Gee. Now there's a shocker.
My eyes glazed over with all the narcissism and self-abosrbtion about 1/4 of the way through it. I could only skim through it after that.
She obviously gets paid by the word.
Does he have a beer belly that 50 year old men get? Does he have all his hair? Or for that matter can he even get it up without Viagra?
Me? No, yes (gray) and yes. Talk about generalizing. Just wow!
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I am repeatedly curious about women who make such statements, and then wonder why their "marital" relationships suck. Screw loose somewhere upstairs
The word for her musings is ‘cold’. She speaks of a 20 ‘partnership’ with less emotion than if she’d just had to replace an old car. Obama could have written this.
“I don’t generally even enjoy men ... as I do most nights to my bed, a glass of merlot and a good book.”
Hence one reason why your arse is being divorced?
=.=
I’m sure the next chapter is she’ll turn gay.
I would love to see an article by a man or woman who have had affairs, fessed up and worked it out. According to my marraige counselor friend, with whom I discussed this topic this weekend, the happens more often than not.
It just doesnt happen overnight and it takes a ton of work.
But, for those willing to make the effort, it is well worth it.
A lie. She just didn't want to.
>>these so much attacking of peoples’ appearance on this site...ill never understand it...<<
It is meant in humor. Obviously, this femnazi is so ugly on the inside it wouldn’t matter if she was red hot (which would give us a different angle on the humor).
That is telling in itself but we do live in a disposable society. My complaint isn’t as much as her decision but her conclusion. We all fail and sometimes grow weary in our relationships and tasks but it is entirely irresponsible to present our failings as something to aspire to or as an indication to others that because we failed the whole bit about trying isn’t worth while at all.
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