Posted on 06/06/2009 10:08:39 PM PDT by thecodont
For 14 years, my wife, Claire Fitzgerald, and I have worked at Stanford University as counselors assisting hundreds of couples prepare to be married at the campus' Memorial Church. Because Stanford stresses diversity in its student population, the couples come from all over the world - China, Russia, South Africa, Mexico - and from all over the United States. This diversity has sometimes presented us with challenges, but marriage has commonalities: It can enable each partner to grow in generosity, compassion, understanding and patience.
To help brides and grooms reflect on each other's personality traits, the university requires they complete a 180-question profile called the Taylor Johnson Temperament Analysis. Typical questions include: Is ... by nature a forgiving person? Does ... find it hard to accept criticism or blame? Does ... have a quick temper? Does ... find it difficult to follow a set plan? Is ... extremely neat and orderly?
The Taylor Johnson measures nine pairs of personality traits significant in interpersonal relationships: nervous/composed, depressive/lighthearted, active-social/quiet, expressive-responsive/inhibited, sympathetic/indifferent, subjective/objective, dominant/submissive, hostile/tolerant, self-disciplined/impulsive.
Each partner fills out the questionnaire on himself or herself and on his or her partner. Perceptions almost always lead to lively discussions and insights. As counselors, we help couples reflect on such questions as: How do you handle stress? Are you introverted and your partner extroverted? How do you communicate? Is she very expressive and he more inhibited? How well do you listen to one another?
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My first wife and I were married at the Stanford university “Newman Center”. We had to get a dispensation from the Catholic Church to get married there. We also moved from Arizona to make our marriage legal.
I certainly hope that this is just poorly written. The university obviously has no business requiring anything of anyone who's planning to get married.
Unfortunately, I believe it is the literal truth. In addition, they probably keep copies of the results, and provide them to... whomever has the requisite "authority" in the opinion of... whomever keeps them.
This is Liberal Land. You WILL be helped for your own good, by the collective. And by the time they're done helping you, you'll say thank you and mean it.
Is this kinda like what eHarmony does?
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