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If your kids are behaving badly treat them like a dog, says Battersea Dogs Home behaviour expert
The Evening Standard (U.K.) ^ | August 26, 2008

Posted on 08/26/2008 9:49:40 PM PDT by Stoat

If your kids are behaving badly treat them like a dog, says Battersea Dogs Home behaviour expert

Last updated at 23:49pm on 26.08.08

 
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Good boy: Children should be 'trained' like puppies according to a behaviour expert from Battersea Dog's Home

It's a common scenario for many a harassed mother  -  you're in the supermarket and your little darling starts playing up.
 

But forget the naughty step or cool-off corner.
 

The best way to handle misbehaving toddlers is to treat them like a dog, according to advice from a leading animal charity.

They claim that, because young children and animals are unable to communicate verbally, both need to be shown what is and is not acceptable behaviour.
 

Pat Moore, deputy head of behaviour at Battersea Dogs & Cats Home, said:
 

'Becoming a dog owner or a new parent puts people under pressure.
 

'Neither puppies or toddlers can be expected to immediately know how to behave in certain situations and need clear, consistent guidance.

'The key is to use more simplified verbal communication and distinctive body language.
 

'The tone of voice is key, along with your facial expressions.

 

'If you are giving a command, you don't need to yell and shout but you should make sure your voice is firm and your meaning clear.'
 

She claimed the key to training a dog  -  and a child  -  from running you ragged is 'positive reinforcement'.
 

This works on the theory that rewarding good behaviour  -  through verbal praise, physical affection or treats such as sweets and toys  -  is far more effective than punishing bad behaviour.
 

The charity's advice, which is revealed in next week's Paws magazine, adds that controlling how often these treats are given and matching the 'value' of the reward to behaviour is also important.
 

'When training the dogs at Battersea we use a mixture of rewards including tasty treats for really good behaviour,' the article says.
 

'If you use the best treats all the time  -  such as a chew  -  it loses its value and isn't so attractive.
 

''While we aren't child psychologists, it seems that parents should act in a similar way, keeping a range of rewards for different circumstances.
 

'Behaving well on a shopping trip may result in a trip to the playground or a packet of sweets  -  it wouldn't usually mean buying a very expensive toy.'
 

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How to train your child or dog: Distract their attention by exchanging the item for something equally tempting

If a child is possessive about their toys, in the same a dog can be with a ball, the key is to distract their attention by exchanging the item for something equally tempting.
 

Attention-seeking behaviour also needs to be dealt with consistently.
 

One frazzled mother who worked from home found her daughter had a tantrum every time she was told to be quiet during a conference call.
 

Instead of bribing the girl with toys or sweets, the woman was advised to use dog handling techniques instead.
 

Alison Russell, another behaviourist at Battersea, said: 'When we have a dog, for example, that jumps up and barks to get attention, we try to avoid the behaviour in the first place by setting up a game with them well ahead of time.
 

'The important thing is not to interact with them when they are behaving badly as they will start to play up just to get your attention.
 

'Dogs mature far more quickly into adulthood than humans but both species have a "socialising" period and it is in this early stage that they form an impression of the world and how to cope with it.
 

'Child psychology and dog behaviour are, of course, complex and very individual subjects but there are also some startling similarities between them which can be tackled with simple behavioural techniques.'
 

Sue Atkins, parenting coach and author of Raising Happy Children for Dummies, said that  -  in basic terms  -  she agreed with the advice.
 

'It's an interesting question and I have laughed at times about the similarities between puppies and children,' she added.
 

'In the sense of who's in control and knowing what you want to communicate, I would agree with what is being said.
 

'Obviously you don't want to take the analogy too far, but on a basic level you can make comparisons.'
 

There's a good boy

Helen Tennant, 39, lives with her two-year-old son Archie in South West London.
 

She said: 'I was in the office at Battersea Dogs & Cats Home discussing the problem I was having with my son Archie, who was then 16 months old.
 

'Basically, he was very possessive over his toys and wouldn't give them up even when it was bed or bath time.
 

'It was becoming a real struggle to get his favourite toy, a digger, off him.
 

'One of the behaviourists suggested I try the same training methods they used, where they exchanged a dog's toy for something else.
 

'At bed time, I made fuss of an alternative toy - a teddy - and it worked like a dream.
 

'Archie lost interest in his digger straight away and insisted on taking the teddy to bed with him instead.'



TOPICS: Education; Humor; Pets/Animals; Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: children; doggieping; dogs; kids; pets
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To: Stoat
Yeah that crate is a good idea, but you gotta break those opposable thumbs before they'll stay in there like they're s'posed to.

Anybody else smell ozone, or izzat just me?
21 posted on 08/27/2008 10:38:58 AM PDT by Titan Magroyne ("Drill now drill hard drill often and give old Gaia a cigarette afterwards she deserves it." HerrBlu)
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To: Stoat; AnAmericanMother; Titan Magroyne; Badeye; apackof2; Joe 6-pack; Shannon; SandRat; arbooz; ...
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22 posted on 08/28/2008 6:12:08 AM PDT by HairOfTheDog
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To: Slings and Arrows

....Another article on child rearing from the perspective of dog raising. =^..^=


23 posted on 08/28/2008 7:03:15 AM PDT by Biggirl (A biggirl with a big heart for God's animal creation, with 4 cats in my life as proof. =^..^==^..^=)
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To: HairOfTheDog

Kindly add me to your “Doggie Ping” list.

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24 posted on 08/28/2008 10:14:38 AM PDT by Don W (To write with a broken pencil is pointless.)
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To: HairOfTheDog
[This works on the theory that rewarding good behaviour - through verbal praise, physical affection or treats such as sweets and toys - is far more effective than punishing bad behaviour.]

I'm 'old school', I do not believe bribing a child to behave is the thing to do.

Praise and affection should always be used but a child should be taught to behave because it is the 'right thing', not to earn a treat.

I have known mothers who tell their children, "if you are good at the store I'll buy you a toy". We don't get 'treats' for how we behave all our lives. It's all about learning what's right and what's wrong.

This is also what has happened in our schools. No bad grades or Johnny might feel bad. Every body is a 'winner'. --Wait till they get out in the real world!

25 posted on 08/28/2008 1:21:46 PM PDT by potlatch ("OUR LIVES BEGIN TO END THE DAY WE REMAIN SILENT ABOUT THE THINGS THAT MATTER")
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To: pillut48

Perfidy is in the heart of a child, yet the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.


26 posted on 08/28/2008 1:23:47 PM PDT by allmendream (If "the New Yorker" makes a joke, and liberals don't get it, is it still funny?)
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To: Zack Attack

27 posted on 08/28/2008 1:25:25 PM PDT by allmendream (If "the New Yorker" makes a joke, and liberals don't get it, is it still funny?)
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To: Biggirl

Both of which have gone to hell in a handbasket in the last 40 years.


28 posted on 08/28/2008 5:46:44 PM PDT by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: potlatch

A poster after my own heart. (I hate walking into PetStupid with their wienie coddlling/training.)

In point of fact, all sides are needed for good training. You cannot simply ignore bad and praise good. Curbing the bad is sometimes deadly important. If you train to drive, you cannot simply refrain from yelling at the driver to keep him from running into the pole, lest you offend him.


29 posted on 08/28/2008 5:50:09 PM PDT by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: the OlLine Rebel

[A poster after my own heart.]

Lol, good! My comments were really directed at raising children. Bad behavior cannot be ignored, you’re right.

Dogs are a bit different as they never rise above the intelligence of a two year old child. When my Yorkie did something ‘bad’, he got a stern NO and even a mild pop with a newspaper. He learned fast.

Learning to “stay” will keep him from possibly getting killed, so training is good thing with dogs AND children.


30 posted on 08/28/2008 6:03:43 PM PDT by potlatch ("OUR LIVES BEGIN TO END THE DAY WE REMAIN SILENT ABOUT THE THINGS THAT MATTER")
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