"Yooo-whooo... Someone call?"
Posted on 07/11/2008 9:44:44 PM PDT by terbatime
Trying to raise a real man in today’s world may be harder than splitting an atom. Everyday our kids are bombarded with images and messages of the most unmanly things imaginable. Magazines are full of sexually ambiguous models dressed in feminine clothes in homo-erotic poses. There’s a new book out every month about how you don’t need a man in the house to raise a man. TV shows typically are full of metro-sexual, gay, and otherwise wimpy male characters, and nearly every Hollywood movie that comes out has at least one homosexual character. Almost every dad in the movies or on TV is either a miserable lout or a complete buffoon. At school your kids are subjected to all sorts of programs designed to promote unmanly lifestyles. Real men have disappeared from history books and have been replaced with politically correct figures. Any boy reading magazines, attending public school, and watching TV or movies would assume that half of the men in the world are gay, and the other half are metro-sexual or girlie men. That’s why your job as a father is as tough as it’s even been. It’s you against the world.
Let’s be clear about a dad’s role in raising a child. It takes a man and a woman to raise a real man. A boy needs a mother to nurture him, and take care of him. He also needs the influence of a strong, masculine male figure in his life. These influences balance each other out. If you’re missing either influence, you tend to get less than optimal results.
Children need and rely on their mothers more at an early age. However, as a boy becomes a teenager and advances through adolescence, his father must step up his influence. This is the time where boys typically begin to rebel and assert some independence. This is when they start to become men. They begin to gravitate towards their fathers. They seek out more dangerous or risky activities.
As your boy starts to grow into a man and seeks out your guidance, you still need to support his mother’s influence. For example, a male teenager will often disrespect his mother because they’re acting out in their masculinity. No longer are they physically inferior to their mothers. They’ll usually test their mothers more than their fathers. A father has to set the boy straight. They need to be taught to always act respectfully towards their mothers.
Of course, raising a kid is always a crap shoot. You can do everything by the book, and still end up with a kid who goes completely off the deep-end. They may rebel, run away, turn to drugs, and act out in all sorts of self-destructive ways you never imagined possible. Also, how many of us have two or more kids that we’ve treated exactly the same way, only to watch one of them go in a completely different direction. You drive yourself nuts trying to figure out what you did wrong. Sometimes, it has nothing to do with you. It’s just the personality of the child, their friends, and other influences over which you have very little control.
However, chances are that if a boy is raised by a real man in a structured environment, he’s much more likely to grow in to a real man himself - a strong, independent, and responsible man. So how do you raise a strong, independent, responsible, real man – a man who is honorable, intelligent, financially stable, able to take care of and protect his own family, and able to successfully raise children of his own? Here are some suggestions: read the rest: http://www.realmanmag.com/raisingarealmaninametrosexualworld.html
> Trying to raise a real man in today’s world may be harder than splitting an atom.
It ain’t that difficult, actually: ordinary biology has seen the job done properly for a few million years.
For some reason some members of the Human Species seems to feel the need to Poncify their bloodlines in an unnecessarily complicated way. Fortunately, Darwinian Selection will nullify these Poncified lines within a few generations, with no effort required from the rest of us.
> Let’s be clear about a dad’s role in raising a child. It takes a man and a woman to raise a real man. A boy needs a mother to nurture him, and take care of him. He also needs the influence of a strong, masculine male figure in his life. These influences balance each other out. If you’re missing either influence, you tend to get less than optimal results.
Bingo! Like all good things in life, simple is better.
"Yooo-whooo... Someone call?"
I’ll agree with you DieHard, but not completely until I find out what “poncify” means.
Dictionary.com didn’t have it, but a few slang references showed up from google.
Is it “panzify” as in to make panzies out of?
If not, I would like to add “poncify” to my verbal armamentarium — if you could enlighten the rest of us.
> is it “panzify” as in to make panzies out of?
That would be close, except to “panzify” implies the homosexualization of said “panzy”
To “poncify” is slightly more pejorative: it means to make a “ponce” out of. A fop. A player-with of dolls.
Noun: ponce póns
Usage: Brit, vulgar
1. A man who is effeminate in his manner and fussy in the way he dresses
2. Someone who procures customers for whores
- pimp, procurer, panderer, pander [archaic], pandar
Hence, to “poncify” does not necessarily imply homosexualization of said “ponce” — it is sufficient that they merely be effeminate to be the subject of well-earned derision.
“Merci beaucoup” for the explication.
Britslang better qualify as a second language.
I want to impress the Europeans.
> Britslang better qualify as a second language.
> I want to impress the Europeans.
In truth, the Australians have taken BritSlang and turned it into a fine art. Particularly Cockney rhyming slang. Hence, a “Noah” is a shark (Noah’s Ark = Shark). “Plates” are feet (Plates of Meat = feet)... &tc the list goes on and on.
If you instead want to master the fine art of vulgar language, nobody but nobody does it better than the Quebecois. They have entire categories of swear that Anglophones have not yet even conceived of. And they can be strung together one-after-the-other: they could write an entire novel-length cuss in this manner.
Nonsense. It just takes knowledge and commitment. Don't send boys to spirit-killing schools where they'll be forced to act like girls and "explore their feminine side." Don't show them stupid TV full of superior gays and women and brain-dead men. Don't buy them PC books and magazines that denigrate the great men of the past and present.
Do make sure their education is about knowledge and action, and convey the knowledge as quickly as possible so they can get to the action. Do have them run, jump, climb, swim, skate, or blow something up every day. Do give them guns, swords, and snakes. Do show them John Wayne movies and let them play "Medal of Honor: Pacific Assault." Do have a father who's a man and a mother who's a woman, and as many brothers as possible!
I could go on, but we have dragons to feed ...
To be a raise or be a real man you have not not give much thought to what others think of you. You know it yourself.
I was a longtime subscriber to Forbes and finally stopped renewing it when the magazine became a paeon to billionaires in every issue with ludicrous lifestyle articles, and most of all, the ads for clothing draped on ambiguously sexed “male” models that creeped me out. Those sexually provocative ads for clothiers were more in the line of solicitations for the wealthy. Very creepy.
“...or blow something up every day.”
Absolutely. From mentos to bottlecap rockets to the dreaded five rubberband superweapon.
Digging holes and excavating underground cities (in the backyard), building forts, and running, always, running.
You get engineers! ( -;
What a good mommy you are!
One of my boys (might have been brick-headed James) tumbled down the stairs one day, leaped to his feet and roared, with a rubber-band six-shooter in one hand and a Confederate flag in the other :-). Our main rule is “Don’t hurt the house.”
“We need more cap pistols.” Fine. “I want to make a PVC light saber.” Fine. “I found a bunch of tadpoles and a baby snapping turtle.” Don’t let them out of your room. “Can I have a caiman?” Get a job.
You’re right. The point was simply that due to all of the things you mentioned, society makes it difficult for parents to raise a normal, masculine, male child. The primary message delivered by the media on a daily basis is that it’s o.k. for men to act like women.
http://www.realmanmag.com
You’re exactly right. Take a look at Rolling Stone, GQ, Details, Men’s Health, Men’s Vogue - all equally creepy.
Years ago, I had a clothing ad from “Forbes” cut out and pinned up in my cubicle: Scott Glenn in a $2,000 suit. Dang, he was good looking! When I left my job, I gave the picture to a coworker who also had good taste in men.
Old, old thread here, but things haven’t changed. You still have to work at bringing up boys to be men. My oldest boy (16) was clambering around the church roof last week, and an Army recruiter saw him and gave him a lecture about ROTC scholarships and the thrill of driving a tank in Iraq! (Then the Sunday School director gave him a lecture about the church’s liability insurance, and the custodian told him off about damage to the shingles ;-).
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