[tlj18]

PING and BOOKMARK

[Excellence]

My first crush started when I was 14, lasted 14 years until he died, and took 14 years to let go of. It was strange, but every time he was in dire trouble I would feel an extreme urgency to call. It's just that the last time I was too late, somebody else answered the phone and, recognizing my name and that I was a friend, told me he had committed suicide.

[WFTR]

Happy Memorial Day!!! (Traditional)

Friday Night Singles
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Bonus Questions

1. The traditional Memorial Day was May 30, but Congress changed the observance to the last Monday in May beginning in 1971. Some people believe that this change cheapens the "real meaning" of Memorial Day because people use their three day weekend for various kinds of travel and parties. Others believe that the current observance is fine. Do you think Memorial Day should be observed on the traditional May 30 or do you think that the current practice of observing the holiday and giving most people a day off work on the fourth Monday in May is better? Do you think that more people would take time to honor those who've died if the holiday were observed only on May 30? If the government observed Memorial Day on May 30, do you think businesses would change their employee holidays or would they continue to give the day off on the fourth Monday in May?

2. Memorial Day is traditionally considered the start of the summer vacation season. Is the cost of gasoline impacting your plans for summer vacation or any other kind of summer activity?

3. Do you tend to wear your hair differently during the summer because of the heat, different summer activities, or for any other reason?

[kitkat]

My first, and only crush, was when I was nineteen. I knew the second we were introduced that he was the man for me.

I invited him to my school’s alumni prom. I loved every second of being with him. I’d see him at church dances, and he always took me out afterwards and saw me home. BUT HE NEVER ASKED ME OUT ON A REAL DATE.

The rest of this story is so unreal that if you read it in a book, you’d say the writer couldn’t really think you’d believe it. BELIEVE IT!

About a year after we’d met I was reading the paper one evening when my picture jumped out at me. I was stunned. How did that get here? But wait, I thought, “Those aren’t my clothes. What’s happening here?”

It was his brand-new fiance’s picture. We were exact images of each other.

Shortly after that I ran into both of them on a crowded bus. I turned and found myself staring at myself. I pretended I hadn’t noticed anything unusual and turned away.

It took me a year to get over that crush. Was it worth it?

Hell, no!

[LaineyDee]

What is your definition?

Infatuation!

When someone speaks of having a crush or when you think of having a crush, do you think of something innocent although maybe frustrating or do you think of something not so innocent?

Usually I think of innocent flirtation.

Do you distinguish between crushes and other feelings of attraction or infatuation?

Infatuations are usually not based on reality, but on "wishful thinking". The most romantic and handsome man in the world can turn me off in a nanosecond... by being a total slob at home.

The next question is what qualities tend to make you or those you know have crushes on someone? Do you fall for a certain "type" or have you had these feelings for all kinds of people?

My "type" has always been something between a cowboy rogue and a yuppie. Go figure. Maybe that's why I'm still single? *chuckle*

Are you more likely to have a crush on someone that you know in real life, or are you more likely to have a crush on some public figure that you know through the media?

I've only had one serious crush in my life .....and it truly opened my eyes. I fell for a guy in high school that I dated for a year. He moved about 600 miles away after he graduated and I never saw him again.....UNTIL a few years ago. We found each other on classmates.com and set up a meeting. We talked for a few hours and when I left......I thought "OMG......WHAT did I EVER see in him????". This is a guy I pined for over 20 years. The good thing about that meeting is that it destroyed all those fantasies of "what could have been". The bad thing was......it took me a long time to get him to quit calling. *chuckle*

[LaineyDee]

BTW.......great topic!

[WFTR]

I'll take a shot at some of my own topics.

First, I've been more likely to develop crushes on public figures for some time. I think the biggest factor for me in that respect is that I'm so rarely in a position to meet women in real life who would inspire me to feel that way. The second biggest factor is that the women I like in real life are often inappropriate objects for those feelings. For instance, I very much liked a woman who worked at the plant for a while. However, she was married, and I really don't like the thought of having these kinds of feelings for women at work. Later, she divorced, but I still like to keep things professional at work. Even under other circumstances, I don't think she'd be right for me, but I thought very highly of her. To some extent, I thought that maybe I did have a little crush.

My most recent public figure crush is Julie Banderas of Fox News. I like her on-air persona on the Fox Weekend Live. She does well on Fox Report Weekend although that format doesn't show the individual anchor's personality as much. Sometimes, I can't sleep, and she'll be on Red Eye. She's really fun on that show.

I would differentiate a crush from an infatuation or obsession by whether one's thoughts and actions are unhealthy. For instance, I don't rearrange my life to watch her shows on Fox. If I'm at home when those shows are on, I'll watch for a bit. If I were changing my whole life to watch every moment, I'd be creeping myself out. Of course, another possibility is that I've reached the age where I don't have the time or energy to maintain an infatuation or obsession, so I have to settle for a crush.

I used to be somewhat infatuated with Brooke Burke when she hosted Wild On! on the E! channel. Her on-air persona was more overtly sexual and more obviously manufactured. However, she still came across as someone who was fun to be around.

[Nowhere Man]

The next question is what qualities tend to make you or those you know have crushes on someone? Do you fall for a certain "type" or have you had these feelings for all kinds of people?

Are you more likely to have a crush on someone that you know in real life, or are you more likely to have a crush on some public figure that you know through the media?

I think it depends on many factors, I really can't aswer it very well since I've had both. Howver, for a public figure, on Fox News, I always liked Patti Anne Browne although I haven't seen her recently. B-(

How do you think most crushes turn out? Do they ever lead to serious romantic relationships? Do they ever lead to solid friendships?

Well, at the risk of turning this into a horror story thread, I did read ahead an s saw RCA2000's horror story, believe me, I have my share too. Don't want to go into the whole detail again, but this girl I knew in college, she liked science fiction stuff like Star Trek, Dr. Who and so forth, but when I wanted to talk to her at one point, she told me to leave her alone in a very mean tone. I said, "well, OK, then, nice knowing ya," and parted. A few months later, because she saw my name on a Fidonet BBS user log, she accused me of trying to log into her account, which I never would do. The whole college got involved, there were threats of charges against me but none were filed, everything was ironed out and everything was OK. The day I was accused, I just drove home, I blacked out while driving (everything was a blur to me) and then "came to" at home, my cats were trying to comfort me, first Corky came up to me, then Cricket and Pansy (I miss you guys). This was back in 1989.

What questions have I failed to ask about this topic? If you were hosting this weekend, how would you have approached the topic?

I don't know, you did a good job, at least I think so.

[MarkL]

we all know that the difference between a crush and true love is a restraining order!

Mark

[WFTR]

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Bonus Questions

1. How soon do you Google a "celebrity" after deciding that you have a crush on him/her?

2. What's the best thing that will happen this week at work? What's the worst?

3. Are you thinking of buying anything special this week?

This one isn't a bonus question exactly, but we'd always like to hear from anyone willing to volunteer to host a thread or anyone who has ideas about topics that we can cover. We also did a thread a while back where we interviewed one volunteer. If anyone would like to be the subject of another interview singles' thread, please let us know.

Thanks,

Bill