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What I have found is that people with good spouses don’t understand why a man or woman would leave. They can’t comprehend the terrible things a bad man or woman can do. Since I am now married to a good woman who was married to a bad man I have compassion and understanding that many married people, married people with good spouses, cannot possibly have.
I have discovered that mostly you have to love someone before you hate them, or they have to have done something to someone you love. A spouse is in a unique position to be either loved or hated.
It is of course wrong to hate people but it happens, when it does you don’t have to be stupid and kill them.
Most of us have probably had something done to us by someone that we loved that made us want to do something really bad to them, but we knew it was wrong so we didn’t. I do not buy temporary insanity. I think it is easy to hate someone bad enough to not fear the consequences of wrong actions but I do not think that just because you do not fear the consequences that you should not have to face them.
JAKraig: “What I have found is that people with good spouses don’t understand why a man or woman would leave. They can’t comprehend the terrible things a bad man or woman can do.”
I married very well, and you’re probably right. I’ve heard similar statements before, and I thank God nearly every day that I was lucky. I think there’s far more chance involved than most people are willing to admit. Most people pick a spouse from a very small group of people.