My first wife and her lover planned and schemed for two years to financially ruin me and get away with the assets. With a two year jump of infidelity, she almost succeeded. I survived but she and her lover were rewarded for their planning and dishonesty because once a divorce decree is given, it is very hard to have it reversed for any reason. Her dishonesty and infidelity were rewarded handsomely. Fair? Not really...the cards are stacked against the man.
The cards are stacked against the innocent victim when people get together to defraud. You could be male or female. I’ve seen victims of both sexes.
And any children are always victims, whether boy or girl.
Exactly my point. “No fault” divorce laws, from principle on through to practice are thoroughly unjust.
They allow people, male or female, to practically get away with...murder.
People can be rotten. And, I warn my son — watch out for women. WE can be really, really bad.
I am so terribly sorry you were put through that. I hate to say it, but I think women can be far more vindictive than men. I can tell you this. When I was in the military, I often saw airmen taken to the cleaners by their wives. Yes, a lot of the men were cheating on or neglecting their spouses, but the women often cleaned out every bank account and maxed out every credit line. The men often took it very, very hard. Men often try to hide the pain, but they do hurt...bad. More often than not, the wives filed the divorce papers, and the guys went through the process shell shocked.
My ex and his girlfriend planned for about a year.I lost my home, my step-daughter (he took her and put her in foster care) my livestock and my dogs. Everything I loved, gone. When this was all happening the Lacy Peterson thing was going on. I remember thinking that her husband was kinder than mine, her death was at least relatively fast. It’s five years down the road and I still feel that way.