Posted on 07/19/2007 6:23:34 AM PDT by RockinRight
July 23, 2007 issue - I am at a party chatting with a woman I know slightly. As her young son squirms out of her embrace, she slips her hand under my shirt. She's not getting fresh with me. She's touching my tummy with her cold hand and asking me, in a concerned voice, "Why aren't you pregnant yet?" I smile, break free from her touch, and head to the food table to fill said empty belly with her brat's birthday cake. I love children and definitely plan on having them. Maternal instinct is oozing out of my pores: I've infantilized my dogs; I've gotten down on my hands and knees at the park with babies I barely know. My marriage is wonderful and solid, and we are both blessed with good health. I've been a nanny, a teacher, a youth-group leader. I've taken childhood-development courses solely for the purpose of someday raising happy, balanced children. I have always looked forward to becoming a mother. So why don't I have kids or even the inkling right now? It's because of you. Yes, you: the fanatical mothers of the world.
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Why was she at the birthday party if she only slightly knew the lady?
Mine too.
True on airplanes too when kids are screaming and yelling while the other passengers just want a quiet flight.
Hey Hoodie....WASSUP!
I do think you and the author are in agreement.
The idea that talking about children or seeing children constitutes an affront to which we must adjust ourselves is unreasonable.
The childless is holier than thou. The preferred life and personal feelings of the childless need careful consideration by the wider community. Surveys indicate by dramatic margins that Americans more and more define happiness in terms of being without children. Consequently, we get a published essay about the internal frustrations about someone who does not like others suggesting that she be a mother.
It is okay to suggest— and publish essays— that people be quiet about such matters. It is not okay to suggest that women should have children.
I think this is typical pscyho social self absorption that passes as journalism. The most selfish perspective is the best perspective.
There is all manner of judgmentalism displayed toward other parents, and SHE DOES NOT WANT TO BE A PARENT (see my all caps key works too).
Why do I need to know— oh right people keep asking her if she is going to have a child. This bothers her greatly.
Not pregnant so all is still good! (trying to keep with the thread theme)
What’s up with you?
"Well I was planning to have kids, until I met yours"
;^)
Yes, we are in agreement. That is that it’s nobody else’s damned business when we will or won’t have children. We’re not talking about abortion here, just choosing to WAIT to have children until they feel ready to.
Socialismisinsidious and I are on the same page. She has 7 kids, I have none (but will - I’m getting married soon and we want kids) but we both agree that it’s really nobody’s concern how many kids someone else has. Not in the context of the article anyway. And it does work BOTH ways, as she (socialismisinsidious) indicated.
Of course it’s easy for me to whine about bratty toddlers, because my son is 16 and my daughter is 21... I’m at that stage where babies and tots are kind of cute, for about 3 minutes.....then I move on.
I don't have anything against soccer moms (whatever floats your boat) but when you see that soccer ball magnet on a gas tank lid, do you think 'there's a soccer fan,' or 'there's a proud mommy embracing the stereotype and that's her badge.'
Somehow, I have a feeling that she deserved that punch. Something about her arch tone belies her motives in this set piece.
Not bad otherwise!!
LOL!!!!
BWAAAAHAHAHA!!!
An autobiography that will never be written.
Fascinating...
So, the problem isn't with my choice, or yours - it's basically a bunch of opinionated louts who don't have the social graces to mind their own business!
Perhaps a nicely phrased comment like... MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS...is what is needed.
I'll try that in the future.
After I step on their foot, by accident - of course.
I used that one at my brother's wedding.
And I'm female.
Mom was pist.
I tell people that I lost my uterus in the war.
That usually shuts them up.
And made BANK!
woohoo
You should've slapped her across the face for that.
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