Posted on 03/15/2007 12:07:15 PM PDT by PajamaTruthMafia
Brad Delp lit two charcoal grills in the bathroom adjacent to his master bedroom and committed suicide via asphyxiation last week, according to New Hampshire police who yesterday confirmed that the lead singer of the band Boston took his own life.
“He was a man who gave all he had to give to everyone around him, whether family, friends, fans or strangers,” the singer’s family said in a statement. “He gave as long as he could, as best he could, and he was very tired. We take comfort in knowing that he is now, at last, at peace.”
Delp, 55, a Danvers native, left two sealed suicide notes taped to a door and letters to his family and his fiancée, Pamela Sullivan. But Atkinson, N.H., Police Lt. William Baldwin said the cops were not told why he took his life. Toxicology tests by the state medical examiner’s office showed that Delp died of carbon monoxide poisoning.
“It’s very sad for all of us who loved this guy,” said ex-Extreme drummer Paul Geary, a close friend of Delp and his family. “Whenever I called him for anything he’d drop everything and help, and whenever he called me it was for someone else.”
Friends said it was Delp’s constant need to help and please people that may have driven him to despair. He was literally the man in the middle of the bitter break-up of Boston - pulled from both sides by divided loyalties.
Delp remained on good terms with both Tom Scholz, the MIT grad who founded the band, and Barry Goudreau, Fran Sheehan and Sib Hashian, former members of Boston who had a fierce falling out with Scholz in the early ’80s.
Delp tried to please both sides by continuing to contribute his vocals to Scholz’ Boston projects while also remaining close to his former bandmates. The situation was complicated by the fact that Delp’s ex-wife, Micki, is the sister of Goudreau’s wife, Connie.
“Tom made him do the Boston stuff and the other guys were mad that they weren’t a part of it,” said another insider. “He was always under a lot of pressure.”
As you may know, in 1976 the band’s first album, featuring Scholz, Delp, Goudreau, Hashian and Sheehan, was the best-selling debut album in history, spawning rock staples “More Than a Feeling,” ‘Peace of Mind,’ “Foreplay/ Long Time” and ‘Rock and Roll Band.’ But shortly thereafter things deteriorated.
Scholz’ penchant for perfection and his well-chronicled control issues led to long delays between albums. As a result, Goudreau, Delp and Hashian released an album without him, which led to an irretrievable breakdown.
Scholz claimed that the other band members - with the exception of Delp - attempted to steal the name Boston. While the bitter battle raged, Delp tried to keep peace with both sides. He continued to perform with Scholz and the reconstituted Boston but also did projects with Goudreau and remained friends with the other original members.
But the never-ending bitterness may have been too much for the sensitive singer to endure. Just last fall the ugliness flared again when Scholz heard some of his ex-bandmates were planning to perform at a tribute concert at Symphony Hall for football legend Doug Flutie - and then had his people call and substitute himself and Delp for the gig, sources say.
In fact, the wounds remained so raw that Scholz wasn’t invited to the private funeral service for Delp that the family held earlier this week.
“What does that tell you?” asked another insider. “Brad and Tom were the best of friends and he’s been told nothing about anything.”
In an interview with Rolling Stone after Delp’s death, Scholz said he and Delp were “friends and collaborators for 35 years but our bond ran much deeper than just Boston.”
But Scholz also made reference to the ongoing feud in the interview when he told the rock bible that “unlike other individuals eventually involved with Boston, Brad’s down-to-earth personality never wavered.”
Police discovered Delp’s body in his southern New Hampshire home at around 1:30 p.m. last Friday. Sullivan had gone to the house after failing to reach her fiance by phone. Police said Delp was alone at the time of his death.
Some friends expressed surprise at the timing of Delp’s suicide. He had been planning to tour with Boston and to marry Sullivan this coming summer. He was also content working with his first love - a Beatles tribute band called Beatlejuice. But friends say there was a dark side.
“He was a sad character to begin with,” said one close pal. “He didn’t think highly of himself. He was always very self-deprecating. He’s always been that way, though, so there was really nothing to lead anyone to believe that he would do this.”
Delp leaves two children, Jennifer, 26, and John Michael, 22.
Tomorrow, the classic rock station WZLX will pay tribute to Delp with a special edition of “Classic Cafe” featuring his music. The show, hosted by Carter Alan, begins at noon.
"All I want is to have my peace of mind...."
Can we get Boston's lead Senator to join him?
"Don't look back..."
Poor SOB. Too bad he didn't get some help. Perhaps he did, and it didn't take?
Suicide is a complete surrender to hopelessness.
I hope God treats him gently.
As soon as I heard he died, that very verse came immediately to mimd...
Smokin'
I've been listening to rock for over 45 years....and Brad Delp still ranks as the single most amazing voice I've ever heard in the genre. Just an unreal talented man. This is tremendously sad; a major loss to his family, friends, fans, and to music.
He will be greatly missed.
I think to much silicone in his left knocker?.....
Saw them in Baton Rouge during the Third Stage tour (198- something). They were awesome.
What was really neat was that every song they sang, EVERY person in the assembly center knew EVERY WORD and sang along, it was amazing!
Sorry to hear of the lead singer's troubled life and death. Prayers for his family and loved ones.
Just goes to show just how nasty the music business can be.
I am currently reading a book titled "codependent no more." If there's anything to it, Brad was a codependent, which is the way normal people react to abnormal people around them. All the elements in place, Scholz the perfectionist psycho on one side, the rest of the guys on the other. Brad in the middle trying to make everything right. The syndrome is similar to children of alcoholics.
The sad thing is, except for Brad's inability to step back and let others deal with their own problems, he was the normal one. It was the psychos around him that created the pain.
For quite a long time, I had a bit of a codependency thing of my own going on with a psycho family member. I thought I had to keep taking it. Until I get fed up. Then I cut her loose and got rid of 98% of my life's problems.
Sad, but I guess he wanted to be savory in the afterlife...?
One of the greatest rock albums of all time. They don't make 'em like that anymore.
Wonder all you want about it.
You can charge God with being indecent too.
But you will have an eternity to think about the foolishness of your ignoring the great salvation that God has offered you in Jesus Christ.
I remember when that LP came out when I was in Junior HS, I also remember something about a message within the blue flames under the ship, but I forget what it was.
I played golf with Brad a few times, along with guitar player from a band called Hearts on Fire. They weren't kidding when they called him the nicest guy in Rock and Roll.
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