Posted on 02/14/2007 11:24:30 AM PST by blam
Wife studies why husband ignores nagging
DURHAM, N.C., Feb. 13 (UPI) -- A U.S. researcher says some people just can't help ignoring their nagging spouses.
The research, which appears online in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, found that people do not necessarily oppose others' wishes intentionally.
Duke University researchers found that "some people will act in ways that are not to their own benefit simply because they wish to avoid doing what other people want them" to do.
Psychologists describe the behavior at "reactance" -- a person's tendency to resist social influences that they perceive as threats to their autonomy.
Tanya L. Chartrand, an associate professor of marketing and psychology at Duke University's Fuqua School of Business, said even "the slightest non-conscious exposure to the name of a significant person in their life is enough to bring about reactance and cause them to rebel against that person's wishes."
Chartrand said she undertook the research as a way to understand why her husband often seemed to ignore her requests for help around the house.
"My husband, while very charming in many ways, has an annoying tendency of doing exactly the opposite of what I would like him to do in many situations," Chartrand said in a release.
Expert at that...hands down!
ROFLMSS!!!!!!!!!!!
Another way to apply this principle is to have a kid. Then you get to find out how many "perfect" parents there are in the world who can tell you everything you're doing wrong.
You can always tell the "perfect" parents. They're the ones without children.
ARGGGGGGGGH!
Should read:
NOTE: I am NOT attracted to women who look like 14 year olds. A woman has a figure. Not too much of one though.
"Reactance"? Sounds like a new word for passive agressive...
"That makes a lot of sense. Cool! I knew there's some prehistoric root to this!"
Correct! I apparently have solid connections to my caveman ancestors because my wife constantly berates me with "you haven't heard a word I've said have you?" to which I reply "ugh!".
""NOTE: I am not attracted to women who do NOT look like 14 year olds. A woman has a figure. Not too much of one though""
Was that a triple negative?
I tell my wife to ask our oldest daughter those types of questions now (including "does this go together?"), claiming I am not qualified because its a "girl thing".
If I said it doesnt make her butt look big I was perceived as only telling her what she wanted to hear so my opinion couldnt be trusted anyway.
Its a trick question so I just dropped out.
You can always tell the "perfect" parents. They're the ones without children.
You got that right. After ten children, I've learned that everything works sometimes and nothing works all the time but don't take my word for it.
"There is no such thing as a right answer to that question."
It may not be the "right" answer, but replying "Yes, and it's really HOT, you should wear it more often!" will leave her so confused she'll never ask you again.
BWAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Hey, metesky, I hear payback's a b!tch!!
LOL!!
Reminds me of a story I read one time.
An older couple always had breakfast together and the man always came to the breakfast table in his shorts and no shirt, despite years of his wife pleading for him to put on a shirt.
One day she'd had enough. She got up, left the room, and returned a few minutes later minus clothing on her upper torso, sat down and started eating without comment.
The next day her husband wore a shirt at breakfast.
Now that's creative thinking. :)
I feel most primeval when I have to wake up at some forsaken hour (anything earlier than 1). Grarg!
Ain't gonna ask what kind of figure your boss has.
My wife always tells me, "You never hear a word I say." At least I think that's what she said.
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