We stop at Target... and at the front of the store, they have their 'Dollar Bin' or whatever. My ex immediatly started digging into one of the bins, saying something about this item being great for a Christmas stocking stuffer.
I realize she's sorting through reading glasses. My daughter has perfect vision, so far as I know.
I ask my ex if our daughter needs glasses to read. No, she said, she just likes them. Why? She says our daughter has wanted a pair since my ex got her first pair.
Now I'm dumbfounded. Is my ex that stupid?
As she is sorting through the reading glasses (mangnification of all sorts on there... all for a buck a pair!!), I tell her our girl has no need for glasses, and I don't think its a good idea anyway, since prolonged wearing of reading glasses by people who don't need them (especially when reading!) will result in damage to the eyes (boiled-down version).
She slapped the pair she had been looking at back into the reading glasses bin and strode off with the shopping cart, not responding to me.
Now - she's already told me that my daughter has a pair. I know I have to either covertly get rid of them, or try and reason with my 11-year old daughter (easier than with the ex, most times). I'm leaning towards the latter, obviously.
But the most troubling thing to me is that my ex would feed a young girl's desire to be 'fashionable' without a single thought to what would happen to our kid's eyesight in the long run (she loves to read).
I guess this is just a rant, because I know what to do about it. But man - I normally have mega respect my ex, but this blew me away.
I dunno. Bizarre. Like putting braces on a kid who has no need for them. Only that won't hurt their smile in the long run.
I thank God every day that my ex is my ex.
If your daughter doesn't need the glasses she could damage her eyes by wearing them. I suppose you could have a doc write up a letter to explain it to your ex.
And you are telling us this ... why?
our 11 yr old has worn glasses since 2nd grade. he's been
begging! for contacts for a few years now. gotta hold off
a bit until he's a tad more responsible and til his eyes
are more stable (not changing as much).
But you are right, wearing any magnification when you don't need it, will assure that you will need glasses sooner rather than later.
(You might also try waiting your daughter out -- chances are, this is a passing fancy and she'll get tired of the hassle on her own. If not, then "accidentally" misplace the things.)
Of glasses.
Lasix vision.
"Boys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses."
That oughta work.
I would suggest that you make your ex your ex and quit playing these games.
Let your daughter get some plain glass glasses, no magnification. I'm sure she'll get tired of them eventually. But of course correction where there is no need for it can't be good.
We're behind you, Aquaboy. Godspeed!
Wearing glasses that are too strong will not permanently damage your daughter's eyes, notwithstanding the responses here. However, it will cause her to have headaches, dizziness, etc. So while you still have the issue to deal with, at least you can set your mind at ease WRT to eye damage.