Then you would lose the psychological game as he did. If I knew a little "mama talk" would unsettle a player I would be unmerciful.
Of course he should have ignored it instead of getting suckered into a red card. But that doesn't change the fact that the Italian(s) was a total piece of garbage, and it sounds like you are, too. I've never liked the obscene trash-talking as bait tactic, and of course have zero respect for anyone who has to resort to it to compensate for their inadequacies. Machiavellian, but still morally repugnant.