A woman who follows this can pretty much write me off immediately, and I will write her off as well. I'm horrible in this kind of group dynamic. No matter what event is planned, I don't do well trying to get to know women in these situations. I need a time and place of quiet conversation without the distractions of her friends and my friends.
The compromise that I'd always offer is to meet her somewhere in public but where there are going to be few disturbances. For instance, the coffee shop at the Books-a-Million store nearest me just hasn't caught on. Every time I've been there, they have fewer than three of nine tables filled. There are too many people at the store for me to try anything, but they are all passing through or far enough away that they wouldn't be a distraction or interruption to conversation. She should feel completely secure, but I will be able to have the kind of conversation that allows me to be at my best.
Bill
As long as the woman feels safe all around, I'm sure you could make it work. It could be a quite place. It doesn't have to be noisy. It could even be dark and romantic.