Posted on 06/02/2006 5:13:54 PM PDT by DollyCali
I've sometimes felt that women only want a man if they can take him from another woman. If they don't have that game-playing element, they aren't interested. I realize that the statement doesn't apply to all or necessarily even to most women. It's just one of those things that I notice when I'm feeling frustrated.
To be honest, I've also known guys who seem interested in women only as a game. I was once interested in a young lady in a college Christian fellowship. One of my "friends" from the fellowship immediately decided that he had to have her. I don't think he was interested in her as much as he just wanted to make a game of it and beat me. I thoroughly despise that attitude in either sex.
Bill
I think you'll regret this statement. Meet:
Katrina
Ester Lily
and Elvis
Yeah I know; these are not normal Freeper pets. I bought Katrina and Elvis last October. I've always wanted a pet snake. I think I finally reached a point where I knew I wasn't getting married, so I figured that I might as well try these pets. If I've written off finding the right woman, then I don't have to worry about her not being able stand a guy with snakes for pets.
Bill
Yeah, you know, the opposite sex.
I still haven't been in my kayak this year. I'm wanting to get a new kayak that is a better fit. I think one of the reasons that I haven't kayaked in a long time is that my primary kayak puts my legs to sleep, and I'm just not interested in the discomfort of flopping out of the boat after a couple of hours and not being able to walk very well. When I have kayaked in the past, I've gone almost always alone.
Bill
Let it grow.
I used to have this dream fairly often when I was in college. Waking up and realizing that it was just a dream was always a relief.
Someone once told me that this dream is psychologically the same as the dream of showing up in class naked. Both are related to a fear of not being prepared. I never had the dream of being naked. I guess my fear of lack of preparation was different from what some people feel.
Bill
Women seem to be drawn to men who are self-confident. Self-confidence seems to be the quality that makes a woman's heart go "pitter-pat." Self-confidence grabs a woman's attention and hormones the way that a beautiful face and shapely body can grab a man's attention and hormones. While one can argue that the truly brutish and nasty "men" are not really self-confident, their behavior projects something that resembles self-confidence. The analogy in women would be the woman who wasn't really pretty but who dyes her hair a bright blonde and has her breasts enhanced so that her appearance grabs attention. She's not really attractive, but she's close enough that she can get some attention. The guy who's abusive gets a woman's attention this way, and some women will follow the relationship for a while.
Another factor is that our society really doesn't tell young women that getting into relationships with these kinds of men is wrong. When a guy goes after a woman who's physically attractive but has no character qualities, our society is quick to tell him that he's acting wrongly. If negative consequences come to him, society says that he was stupid for not wanting a woman with better qualities. Society will say these things to a guy even though society celebrates a woman's beauty. However, when a woman chases a guy who's clearly a loser and gets hurt, society says that criticizing her actions constitutes "blaming the victim." We create entitlements to take care of women whose pursuit of bad men puts them in difficult circumstances. Some people even try to create domestic violence laws to try to use the government to force these men to be what their women want and need. While a woman who's been burned in that situation may feel foolish and feel that she's done wrong, society doesn't tell her before these consequences hit that she needs to put her fantasies on hold for a bit and really analyze whether the relationship is right. If it isn't, she needs to walk away in spite of how certain aspects of his personality make her feel so good.
And WHY has desiring to live a life of decent moral quality, the way that God dictates in the bible, become so unpopular nowdays, among CHRISTIANS and CONSERVATIVES??
When I was in church, church people told me many stupid things and gave me a tremendous amount of foolish advice. On many of the big picture issues, I can see advantages to doing things "God's way." On the other hand, much of the advice given by the church is really just "church agenda" and isn't God's will. Unfortunately for me, I followed the church's advice for too many years and ended up too old to find the relationship that I needed by the time I figured out that the church had been telling me stupid things.
One answer to your question may be that people are starting to wise up. Their rejection of what you see as God's way may only be a rejection of things that you believe and they don't. Another possibility is that many people like me now realize that since the relationship that I really needed is no longer possible, the next best thing does go against Biblical teaching. However, I'd still rather have the next best thing than the completely unacceptable situation I was getting from the church.
Bill
Anything I wanted to do, I would ask first, and usually the responses were, "We'll talk to your father", "We'll see", or simply and flat out "No".
I never realized until after I graduated high school and was on my own that the reason my mother would say "No" or something resembling a "No" was because she loved me and wanted to protect me from harm or being hurt. You could say I became older and wiser.
I see this sort of anguish and frustration that I had as a teenager, bubble to the surface with my grandmother, who I am a caregiver for. She has Alzheimers, and she cannot perform complex tasks like turning the TV on, or starting the microwave, the washer and dryer or the dishwasher, starting the water in the tub for her bath, cooking the meals, or cleaning the dishes or driving a car. So, I take care of those jobs and let her do easier and simple jobs like wiping the table after a meal, folding her cleaned clothes, letting her do her grocery shopping (I sometimes help with that) and letting her watch on TV what she wants to watch.
I've never been married, I feel terminally single sometimes, but with my grandmother to take care of, I've found I've developed skills as a father and a husband.
There was a day when my grandmother told me during one of our meals that some woman is going to be lucky to snag you because you really know how to cook! (I actually taught myself with a lot of experimentation).
In closing, don't hate your parents, or even your grandparents. Sometimes, people have a funny way of showing they love you.
When I stare at the '+', the purple dots slowly disappear, and I see a lime colored dot going around in a circle.
>>was going to be men's chest waxing, to do, or not to do
Darn! I should have stuck around.
I was rummaging through the cheap DVDs yesterday and picked up "American Beauty"
Have you seen it?
yes, on American Beauty (no to chest waxing)..
I liked AB & think it is more of a guy flick maybe? Good cast. Let me know what you think. I saw it just once in theater when it came out. Several men I know saw it several times in theater & got tape or DVD
Are you staying the same locale next week as you did last year? Maybe Kit & I could meet you in that area.or we could do the Lizard again. Easy to find
Thanks for pinging!
Here is a question geared more toward women. Although women are attracted to men who are confident, charming, funny, etc., I'll log onto online dating sites where many profiles will ask for the aforementioned qualities, but they must be "at least" 6'1" or "must be big and muscular", or something to that effect.
Speaking from personal experience, women may like my personality but can't quite get past the fact that I'm not a big, strong guy (in case you are still skeptical, check out my profile page.) Are women who have these "must be this tall to ride the rollercoaster" requirements simply being shallow or do I just not have enough physical aesthetics to work with?
>>Are you staying the same locale next week as you did last year?
Yep - in the silos. Today I'll see if I can figure out my schedule and let you know.
>>Let me know what you think
I watched it yesterday. I thought it had underlying liberal stuff galore.
Beautiful pets!
We had snakes when my son was growing up.
Good freinds of ours had BIG ones.. 4 huge ones.
I just got out for the first time on Sunday afternoon. Felt good. I don't cramp up because I get in/out of kayak a lot to beach/river comb.
My kayaks are also pretty roomy for legs & hauling stuff.. Swifty & Otter
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