Posted on 05/21/2006 6:36:08 PM PDT by Mr. Brightside
The All-State high school quaterback wants to date my homeschooled daughter.
The boy and his brother are two of the hardest working high school athletes I have ever seen.
His parents have been married for nearly 20 years. They attend church semi-regularyly.
My daughter has never been on a date.
If this goes forward, he will first come to the house for a cookout. Then maybe go out to eat with the family.
Step two is to go out with a group.... and a cell phone.
Your daughter should go out with him is my advice.
Tell him she isn't interested, then. I wouldn't push it, there will be plenty of time for her to come out of her shell. She's only 17.
Now it's my turn to ask for help.
What was the best advice you got with your question (Calling freeper parents- Give advice on speech to HS daughter's prom date)?
I gave you two joke answers. Little did I know I was going to need help on the same topic.
Don't be naive, the answer should be no. If your daughter has never been on a date, you should be very suspicious about this whole scenario.
Now it's my turn to ask for help.
What was the best advice you got with your question (Calling freeper parents- Give advice on speech to HS daughter's prom date)?
I gave you two joke answers. Little did I know I was going to need help on the same topic.
I am very fortunate that I never had any daughters.
Hmmm, looks like you could use some homeschooling too. Spelling lessons, perhaps?
Of course, everything would depend on whether or not your daughter has any interest in "dating" this young man; but, if you think she may be interested, all the more reason to engineer some non-dating dates in her environment where she is confident and secure.The fact that you know, and have a relationship with, the young man makes everything easier. You can talk with him about your daughter being a bit shy ... and, if he has a sincere interest he may jump at the chance to have some casual social encounters with her so that they can get to know each other better.
But, once again, it should all depend on your daughter. At 17 she is not too young. I highly recommend a job, as well. We saw our girls grow up and gain a great deal of self-confidence when they were your daughter's age and had to deal with the public for the first time when they worked during the summer.
And, relax. You will be surprised at how well your daughter has absorbed the values and life lessons you have been teaching her all her life.
Advice?
REad stuff like this: http://www.tbm.org/dating_verses_courting.htm
'Dating', as society sets it up, is a formula for failure. Get to know this kid, and treat him like a very welcome guest to your family. They can do things with other people around, and still 'be together', without being alone.
If he has character flaws, you will see them quickly, and your daughter doesn't have to handle the learning curve on her own.
You may regret saying yes.
Ah, just read post 21. Looks like you're already in tune with sanity! :)
Damn, You're good.
It could be worse. |
What if she is interested?
And God forbid a seventeen year old doing something as brash as going out on a date!
He said in one later post that his daughter had said she wasn't interested. I said don't push it, then. If she was interested, then fine. It's not like she's 17 and hasn't dated yet and OMG she's going to be an old maid or something!
Then what's the point of this thread?!
On a similar note, take him out shooting before the date.
Seriously, a fun family activity is great. They can spend time together and you also get to know him.
Well, that was going to be one of my points in my post, but I just decided to add my .02 instead of belaboring that point. ;0)
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